Quitting (previously published as Mastering the Art of Quitting) (34 page)

Sex in the City
(television series),
18

Shame, and failure, fear of,
92

Shaver, Philip R.,
90

Sheldon, Kennon M.,
206–207
,
208–209

Siegel, Daniel J.,
108
,
109

Silver lining, and regret,
182
,
188

Simons, Daniel J.,
127–128
,
129–130

Single-mindedness

and attention to detail,
130

and bowler metaphor,
137

and causality,
137

and goal setting,
136–137

vs. mental contrasting,
136

and superstitious pigeon experiment,
136–137

Skinner, B. F.,
136–137

Slacker quit,
37–38
.
See also
Quitting, unsuccessful styles of

Slaughter, Anne-Marie,
138
,
139

Smith, Greg,
38

Social contagion,
149

Sorce, James F.,
88

Spielberg, Steven,
140–141

State-oriented coping,
97–104

and regret,
183–184

Stealth quit (“liar, liar, pants on fire”),
42
.
See also
Quitting, unsuccessful styles of

Strange-situation model,
86

Stress

and attachment theory,
87
,
88

and conflicting goals,
156

and coping, action-vs. state-oriented,
99
,
102

and goal disengagement,
90
,
97–98

and health,
118

and rumination,
199

and self-regulation,
96–97
,
99

Stumbling on Happiness
(Gilbert),
64
,
70

Subjective well-being,
194
.
See also
Happiness

Success

fear of,
9

key to success,
2

Summerville, Amy,
188–189

Sunk-cost fallacy,
22–23
,
92
,
211

Superstitious pigeon experiment,
136–137

“The Superstitious Pigeon” (Skinner),
136–137

Survival mode,
48

 

Task implementation,
191

Technology, and self-definition,
213

Temperament

and approach and avoidance goals,
47–48

approach or avoidance, during childhood,
85–86

and artful quitting, talent for,
85–88

Thinking, Fast and Slow
(Kahneman),
180

Thought and emotion, regulation of

and artful quitting,
90
,
104

See also
Emotions, management and regulation of
;
Intrusive thoughts
;
Unconscious thoughts

Thrash, Todd M.,
47
,
85
,
92–93

Threatening quit (“If you don't do this, then I'll quit”),
40
.
See also
Quitting, unsuccessful styles of

Threatening situation.
See
High-demand/threatening situation

Time, and regret,
181–182

Time limit,
134

Timing, and quitting,
82
,
83

Transition, cost of,
144–145

Transitions
(Bridges),
144

Triggers, and mood,
149

Tversky, Amos,
24
,
179–181

Twilight
(Meyer),
76

 

Ultimatum game,
29

Unconscious thoughts,
27–30
.
See also
Thought and emotion, regulation of

Uniqueness,
65–66

Upward counterfactual thinking,
187

 

Visual cliff,
87–88

Vohs, Kathleen D.,
60

Volitional activity,
207

 

Wagner, Dylan D.,
57
,
60

The War of the Roses
(film),
39

Ward, Andrew,
185

Wegner, Daniel,
27
,
29–30
,
54
,
121
,
146

Well-being,
33

and avoidance goals,
95
,
96

See also
Happiness

White bears,
29–30
,
146

and cognitive disengagement,
53–54

strategies to eliminate,
121–122

“Why Women Still Can't Have It All” (Slaughter),
138

“Will I,” “I will” experiment,
168–169

Willpower,
55

Wilson, Timothy,
66
,
69–70
,
72

Wishful thinking,
3

Woodzicka, Julia,
67–68

Wrosch, Carsten,
96–97
,
200–201

 

Yeats, William Butler,
161

 

Zeelenberg, Marcel,
179
,
183
,
189

Zeigarnik, Bluma,
57

Zeigarnik effect,
57–58
,
183
,
190