Odd Girl Out (60 page)

Natalie (student),
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new students, hostile response to,
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niceness

appearance of, and covert bullying,
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assumptions about,
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deemphasizing,
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femininity and,
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and "good" leaders,
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Nicki (student),
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Nicola (student),
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Nicole (student),
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Nikki (student),
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noninterference strategy,
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nonverbal communication

and covert aggression,
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expressing anger/contempt,
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and online communications,
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and relational aggression,
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normal, acting,
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note passing,
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See also
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Noura (student),
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Ntozake (administrator),
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nurturers, girls as,
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Nydia (student),
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Olweus, Dan, Olweus Bullying Prevention Program,
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Omeggle website,
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oppression, experience of,
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Orenstein, Peggy,
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ostracism.
See
alliance building; cliques; exclusion

othermothers,
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panic, panic attacks,
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"parent covenant,"
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parents and guardians

and alliance building,
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bullying by,
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bullying of,
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communications with schools,
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defensiveness of,
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fear of confrontation/silence,
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feeling helpless,
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feeling shame or anger,
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hiding bullying from,
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interventions/responses by,
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labeling of,
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need for honest communications,
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providing empathy and support,
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role in girls' bullying,
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setting limits,
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supervising use of social media,
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passions, discovering,
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passivity,
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See also
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passwords,
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Patchin, Justin,
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Patricia (mother),
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Patterson, Natalie.
See
Natalie (student)

Patterson, Susan (mother),
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peer pressure,
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Peralta, Carmen (student),
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perfection, perfectionism,
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Petra (mother),
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physical aggression,
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physical ailments,
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Pipher, Mary,
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Play Like a Man, Win Like a Woman
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Popular
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popularity

and alliance building,
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attaining, proving,
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and dating,
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and fitting in, belonging,
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importance,
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politics of,
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resentment of,
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and social media,
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and social skills,
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power and control

and alliance building,
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children's desire for,
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education as source of,
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expression of, boys
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girls,
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girl power
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femininity,
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and relational aggression,
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speaking truth to power,
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using social media,
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preschool,
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Price of Privilege, The
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privacy

flaunting, and exclusion/isolation,
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in high school, limits,
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and social media,
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profiles, on social media,
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psychological aggression,
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Puerto Rican girls,
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"punking out,"
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Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads
(Wiseman),
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questions to ask

about aggression and bullying,
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about friendships,
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about psychological aggression,
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about use of social media/technology,
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Rachel (student),
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racism and oppression,
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Raneesha (student),
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reality television,
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real life
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virtual life,
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See also
cyberbullying; social media

Rebecca (coach, mother),
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Rebecca (student),
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Reena (student),
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Reese (student),
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relational aggression

behaviors associated with,
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clique expulsion,
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defined,
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harm caused by,
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identifying,
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invisibility of,
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long-term effects,
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and popularity,
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resisting,
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using third-parties for,
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See also
girl bullying

relationships

among African American girls,
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dynamics of,
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false assumptions about,
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female need for,
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importance of,
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insecurity about,
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learning about,
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and the paradox of authenticity,
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relational instability,
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role of conflict in,
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and social status,
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truthfulness and,
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using social media/technology,
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See also
anger; conflict; friends; popularity