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Authors: Philip Roth

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There are so many beautiful young girls around, why pick on me? Why choose me, when you could have the cream of the crop?

I didn

t bother to answer. As though she were the one being coy or foolish, I smiled.

She said:

Look, look at me.


I

m doing that.


Are you? I

m five years older than you. My breasts sag, not that they ever amounted to much to begin with. Look, I have stretch marks. My behind

s too big, I

m hamstrung—

Professor,

listen to me, I don

t have orgasms. I want you to know that beforehand. I never have.

When we later sat down for the coffee, Lydia, wrapped in a robe, said this:

I

ll never know why you wanted to do that. Why not Mrs. Slater, who

s
b
egging
you for it? Why should anyone like you want me?

Of course I didn

t

want

her, not then or ever. We lived together for almost six years, the first eighteen months as lovers, and the four years following, until her suicide, as husband and wife, and in all that time her flesh was never any less distasteful to me than she had insisten
tly
advertised it to be. Utterly without lust, I seduced her on that first night, the next morning, and hundreds of times thereafter. As for Mrs. Slater, I seduced her probably no more than ten times in all, and never anywhere but in my imagination.

It was another month before I met Monica, Lydia

s ten-year-old daughter, so it will not do to say that, like Nabokov

s designing rogue, I endured the uninviting mother in order to have access to the seductive and seducible young daughter. That came later. In the beginning Monica w
as without any attraction what
soever, repellent to me in character as well as appearance: lanky, stringy-haired, undernourished, doltish, without a trace of curiosity or charm, and so illiterate
that
at ten she was still unable to tell the time. In her dungarees and faded polo shirts she had the look of some mountain child, the offspring of poverty and deprivation. Worse, when she was dressed to kill in her white dress and round white hat, wearing her little Mary Jane shoes and carrying a white handbag and a Bible (white too), she seemed to me a replica of those over-dressed
little
Gentile children who used to pass our house every Sunday on their way to church, and toward whom I used to feel an emotion almost as strong as my own grandparents

aversion. Secre
tl
y, and despite myself, I came close to despising the stupid and stubborn child when she would appear in that little white churchgoing outfit— and so too did Lydia, who was reminded by Monica

s costume of the clothes in which she had had to array herself each Sunday in Skokie, before being led off to Lutheran services with her aunts Helda and Jessie. (As the story had it:

It did a growing body good to sit once a week in a nice starched dress, and without squirming.

)

I was drawn to Lydia, not out of a passion for Monica—not yet—but because she had suffered so and because she was so brave. Not only
that
she had survived, but
what
she had survived, gave her enormous moral stature, or glamor, in my eyes: on the one hand, the puritan austerity, the prudery, the bland-ness, the xenophobia of the women of her clan; on the other, the criminality of the men. Of course, I did not equate being raped by one

s father with being raised on the wisdom of the
Chicago Tribune;
what made her seem to me so valiant was that she had been subjected to every brand of barbarity, from the banal to the wicked, had been exploited, beaten, and betrayed by every last one of her keepers, had finally been driven crazy— and in the end had proved indestructible: she lived now in a neat
little
apartment within earshot of the bell in the clock tower of the university whose a
the
ists,
Communists, and Jews her people
had loathed, and at the kitchen table of that apartment wrote ten pages for me every week in which she managed, heroically I
thought
, to recall the details of
that
brutal life in the
style of
one a
very long way from rage and madness. When I told the class that what I admired
most in Mrs. Ketterer

s fiction was her

control,

I meant something more than those strangers could know.

Given all there was to move me about her character, it seemed
to
me curious that I should
be
so
repelled by her flesh as I was that first night. I was able myself to achieve an orgasm, but afterward felt terrible for the

achievement

it had had to be. Earlier, caressing her body, I had been made uneasy by the unexpected texture of her genitals. To the touch, the fold of skin between her legs felt abnormally thick, and when I looked, as though to take pleasure in the
sight of her nakedness, the vaginal lips appeared withered and discolored in
a
way that was
alarming to me. I could even imagine myself to be staring down at the sexual parts of one of Lydia

s maiden aunts, rather
than
at a physically healthy young woman not yet into her thirties. I was tempted to imagine some connection here to the childhood victimization by her father, but
of course that was too literary, too poetic an idea to swallow—this was no stigma, however apprehensive it might make me.

The reader may by now be able to imagine for himself how
the
twenty-four-year-old I was responded to his alarm: in the morning, without very much ado, I performed cunnilingus upon
her.


Don

t,

said
Lydia.

Don

t
do that.


Why not?

I expected the answer:
Because I

m so ugly there.


I
told you. I won

t reach a climax. It doesn

t matter what you do.

Like a sage who

d seen everything and been everywhere, I said,

You make too much of that.

Her thighs were not as long as my forearm (about the length, I thought, of one of Mrs. Slater

s
Pappagallos) and her legs were
open only so far as I had been able to spread them with my two hands. But where she was dry, brownish, weatherworn, I pressed my open mouth. I took no pleasure in the act, she gave no sign that she did; but at least I had done what I had been frightened of doing, put my tongue to where she had been brutalized, as though—it was tempting to put it this way—that would redeem us both.

As though that would redeem us
b
oth. A
notion as inflated as it was shallow, growing, I am certain, out of

serious literary studies.

Where Emma Bovary had read too many romances of her period, it would seem that I had read too much of the criticism of mine. That I was, by

eating

her, taking some sort of sacrament was a most attractive idea—though one that I rejected after the initial momentary infatuation. Yes, I continued to resist as best I could all these high-flown, prestigious interpretations, whe
the
r of my migraines or my sexual relations with Lydia; and yet it surely did seem to me that my life was coming to resemble one of those texts upon which certain literary critics of that era used to enjoy venting their ingenuity. I could have done a clever job on it myself for my senior honors thesis in college:

Christian Temptations in a Jewish Life: A Study in the Ironies of

Courting Disaster.
’”

So: as often during a week as I could manage it, I

took the sacrament,

conquering neither my fearful repugnance nor the shame I felt at being repelled, and neither believing nor disbelieving the somber reverberations.

During
the
first months of my love affair with Lydia, I continued to receive letters and, on occasion, telephone calls from Sharon Shatzky, the junior at Pembroke with whom I had concluded a passionate romance prior to my return to Chicago. Sharon was a tall, handsome, auburn-haired girl, studious, enthusiastic, and lively, an honor student in literature, and
the
daughter of a successful zipper manufacturer with
country-club affiliations and a
hundred-thousand-dollar suburban home who had been impressed with my credentials and entirely hospitable to me, until I began to suffer from migraines. Then Mr. Shatzky grew fearful that if he did not intervene, his daughter might one day find herself married to a man she would have to nurse and support for the rest of her life. Sharon was enraged by her father

s

lack of compassion.


He thinks of my life,

she said, angrily,

as a business investment.

It enraged her even more when I came to her father

s defense. I said that it was as much his paternal duty to make clear to a young daughter what might be the long-range consequences of my ailment as it had been years before to see
that
she was inoculated against smallpox; he did not want her to suffer for no reason.

But I love you,

Sharon said,

that

s my

reason.

I want to be with you if you

re ill. I don

t want to run out on you
the
n, I want to take care of you.


But he

s saying that you don

t know all that

taking care of could entail.


But I

m telling you—I
love
you.

Had I wanted to marry Sharon (or her family

s money) as much as her
father
assumed I did, I might not have been so tolerant of his opposition. But as I was just into my twenties then, the prospect of marriage, even to a lovely young woman toward whom I had so strong an erotic attachment, did not speak to the range of my ambitions. I should say,
particularly
because of this strong erotic attachment was I suspicious of an enduring union. For without that admittedly powerful bond, what was there of consequence, of
importance,
between Sharon and myself? Only three years my junior, Sharon seemed to me vastly younger, and to stand too much in my shadow, with few attitudes or interests that were her own; she read
the
books I recommended to her, devouring them by the dozen the summer we met, and repeated to her friends and teachers, as hers, judgments she had borrowed from me; she had even switched from a government to a literature major under my influence, a satisfaction to me at first, in the fatherly stag
e of my infatuation, but after
ward a sign, among others, of what seemed to me an excess of submissiveness and malleability.

It did not, at that time, occur to me to find evidence of character, intelligence, and imagination in the bounteousness of her sexuality or in the balance she managed to maintain between a bold and vivacious animality and a tender, compliant nature. Nor did I begin to understand that it was in that tension, rather than in the sexuality alone, that her appeal resided. Rather, I would think, with something like despair,

That

s all we really have,

as though unselfconsciously fervent lovemaking, sustained over a period of several years, was a commonplace phenomenon.

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