More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory (72 page)
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Authors: Franklin Veaux
Tags: #intimacy, #sexual ethics, #non-monogamous, #Relationships, #polyamory, #Psychology
A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship,
Laurie B. Mintz (Adams Media, 2009). A book aimed at heterosexual women with the goal of rekindling desire in long-term relationships, with success that has been supported by peer-reviewed research.
POLYAMORY
Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships,
Wendy-O Matik (Defiant Times Press, 2002). A tiny manifesto on abandoning the relationship escalator and creating intentional, ethically non-monogamous relationships.
The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families,
Elisabeth Sheff (Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, 2013). An in-depth, inside view of polyamorous families based on over a decade of research.
The Polyamory on Purpose Guide to Poly and Pregnancy,
Jessica Burde (CreateSpace, 2013). A complete guide to pregnancy in poly relationships, covering topics including planned pregnancy, unintended pregnancy, custody and child care.
The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships,
Kathy Labriola (Greenery Press, 2013). Forty-two practical exercises that can be completed solo, with a partner or with the help of a therapist.
BLOGS AND WEBSITES
More Than Two, morethantwo.com.
Franklin's own website, maintained since 1997, with a wealth of information on managing poly relationships. He and Eve also maintain a blog at morethantwo.com/blog.
Solopoly, solopoly.net.
An excellent blog from a solo poly perspective, covering everything from the politics to the practicalities of solo polyamory.
The Polyamorous Misanthrope, polyamorousmisanthrope.com.
A long-running blog that's a gold mine of supremely practical poly advice, all written with a good dose of humor.
The Radical Poly Agenda, radicalpoly.wordpress.com.
A blog that takes on the political and ideological implications of polyamory from a feminist, anarchic perspective.
Sex Geek, sexgeek.wordpress.com.
Andrea Zanin's blog on polyamory, sex positivity, kink, and all things sexy and geeky. Pragmatic poly advice that goes beyond the couple-focused, heterosexual, monogamy-plus model.
Polyamory in the News, polyinthemedia.blogspot.ca.
A site that reviews global media coverage of polyamory and also contains comprehensive lists of worldwide poly events, poly groups and poly books.
Polyamory Weekly, polyweekly.com.
A weekly, down-to-Earth podcast by Cunning Minx, covering poly issues with a good dose of compassion and humor.
MEMOIR
Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage,
Jenny Block (Seal Press, 2009). A personal memoir of suburban polyamory that narrates Block's exploration beyond her monogamous relationship.
The Husband Swap,
Louisa Leontiades (CreateSpace, 2012). An emotionally raw and deeply vulnerable memoir of Leontiades's entry into polyamory when she and her husband began a cross-coupled quad. Likely to resonate with many couples who are in the early stages of opening their relationship.
OUR SUPPORTERS
The following people generously contributed $25 or more to the Indiegogo campaign that funded production of this book. A full list of all backers can be found at
www.morethantwo.com/book
.
Adam Burr
Aella
Alan
Alan Escreet (polyhydra)
Alan M. MacRobert
Alex Blue
Allison Frame
Alyse M.
Amanda Richardson
Amy Graff
Andrea Cookson
Andrea Longo
Andrew Kent
Annalisa Castaldo
Annamarie Stockwell
Anne Dorey
Anne Honeycutt
Anonymous B. Shylock
Antti Qvickström
Barry L. Kramer
Beth Fettig
Bitsy
Brian and Cassandra Johnson
Brian Spinetti
Brian Watson
Brian Y.
Brittainy Shaw
Brodie Kristensen
C. Karl Neitzert
C. Thompson
Cameron Blackwood
Carl de Malmanche
Carla
Carole Chanteuse
Cascade Spring Cook
Charcoalhibiscus
Cheryl Martin
Chris Boyle
Christian Schnabel
Coralie Gill
Curvaceous Dee
Dan Girellini
Dan Mahoney and MK Williams
Daniel Cardoso
David Furcas
David H. Clements
David Lindes
David the Good
David Wheeler
Davide Rizzo
Deborah Wallach
Devin Lee
Dominica Malcolm
Dr. D. Paproski
Edward Martin III
Eilish McCahill
Elena Churilov
Elise West
Elisie
Eric Côté
Eric Wagoner
Ewen McNeill
Feygon Willow
Fred Brown
Fritz Neumann
Gabrielle Lamoureux
Geo
inger Nic
gnomees
Golfxs con principios
Grant A
Gwyneth
Hannah "Er00" Fordham
Heather Hill
Heather M.
Herbalwise
Ian Darson
Ian Neufeld
In Loving Memeory of Peter Mannon
Irene S. Khavin
Isa Pdx
J.Burton
Jan&Brian
Jared Pinkham
Jason Rodriguez
Jen Tilson
Jesse Masterson
Jessi Smith
Jessica D.
Jet Summers
Joachim Brackx
Jodie Brown
John Tse
John Ullman
Johnnemann Nordhagen
Joshua Ohmer
K. Hoffman
K'La Albertini
Karen Hill
Katrina Elisse Caudle
Ken & Jen Brown
Kendra Holliday
Kenneth R. Haslam MD
Kennita Watson
Kirsten
Kittykatkatja
Kitwench
Krister Svanlund
Leda
Lesley Mitchell
Liam Newman
LightFoot
Linda Kirkman
Lisa Meece
Liz P.
Lolita Wolf
Louisa Leontiades
Luca Boschetto, Poliamore.org
Luca Pellanda
Luís Miguel Viterbo
Lynne Everett
Mara L
Marc from Quebec
Marilou Rickert
Mark Ellis
Mark Staudt
Matt Grierson
Matt Jones
Matthew Sheahan
Maxine Green
Melissa McCollum
Metalmensch
Michelle Dunn
Mika
Mislav Marohnić
Mr Gentle Brutal
Noël Lynne Figart
NotSoSwiss
Ola Rozenfeld
Pepper Mint
Pyrategrrl
Rachel and Alex Langshall
Rae White
Rebekka K. Steg
Rob Igo
Robert Galloway
Robert Martindale
Roger Penguino
S M Weidmann
Sabrina R
Samantha Marion Perera
Samantha Miller
Sarah Levinson
Sasha Sagan
Sean Donohue
Sesselja María Mortensen
Shakira Searle
SmilingVenus
squishelle
Star Straf
Stuart Cheshire
Terry Steiner
The Atlanta Fraggle Rock Community
The GrahamJoys
Theresa A. Bruckner
Thereza
Thom Linton
Tiffany Adams
Tony Parker
Tucker McKinnon
Vernon Putman
Viktor Leberecht
Wendy Hourston
Yorkshire O.P.E.N
ABOUT THE AUTHORS
As a child,
Franklin Veaux
heard a fairy tale about a princess forced to choose between two handsome princes, and thought, "Everyone knows princesses live in castles. And castles are big enough for both princes. So why does she have to choose?" He has been writing about polyamory since 1998 at morethantwo.com, one of the top-ranked sites about polyamory on the Web. He currently has five long-term partners and lives in Portland, Oregon.
Eve Rickert
is a professional writer, editor, entrepreneur and mastermind. Her approach to poly has evolved over many years: from early experiences in high school, to first hearing the word "polyamory" in 1998, to her first swingers' party in 2006, to her current three long-term relationships. She's learned a lot of hard lessons. She co-wrote
More Than Two
to share those experiences with anyone who is struggling to maintain ethical multiple relationships with integrity, compassion and courage.
Table of Contents
5 Nurturing your relationships
8 Taming the green-eyed monster
11 Hierarchy and primary/secondary poly
15 How poly relationships are different
23 Your partners' other partners
