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spirituality and, 182–183

tendency toward, 92

vagus nerve and, 40–41, 53–58, 61

visual metaphor for, 17–18

PositivityResonance.com, 92, 98, 109, 127, 167

Postpartum depression, 33–34

Posture, 20, 68, 105

PPA (parahippocampal place area), 65–66

Prairie vole experiments, 48

Preparatory practices, 93–96

Princeton University, 42, 47

Radical acceptance, 132, 135

Rapport, 24, 71, 72

Relationship science, 10–11

Religion, 178–182

Resentment, 154–155, 156

Resilience, 8, 60, 77–81, 106, 142–143, 145

RNA, 190

Rodent research, 53

Romanian orphans, 33

Saddha
, 182

Sadness, 16

Safety, sense of, 19–20, 31, 32, 36, 68, 113, 129, 137, 141

“Saint Francis and the Sow” (Kinnell), 119

Salzberg, Sharon, 116–117, 119, 182, 183, 186

Sanskrit, 11

Self-absorption, 10, 67, 74, 95, 102, 103, 144, 156, 161, 162, 170

Self-acceptance, 116, 133–136

Self-aggrandizement, 114, 115, 129, 131, 155

Self-change, 92, 186

Self-compassion, 116

Self-criticism, 115, 129, 131, 137

Self-deprecation, 116

Self-diminishment, 113–114

Self-esteem, 19, 114–116, 138

Self-focus, 123

Self-help industry, 131

Self-interest/concern, 67, 161, 165–166

Self-love, 113–138

obstacles to, 113–114

Self-pity, 140, 144

Self-praise, 129, 130

Self-protection, 77

Self-reflection, 94, 186

Self-regulation, 34

Self-soothing techniques, 79

Self-talk, 128–132, 137

Serenity, 11

Sexual desire, 5, 7

Sexual intercourse, 48

Shared experiences, 75–76

Shared history, 32, 35, 47

Shared positive emotions, 17, 25, 169

Similarity, love and, 139–141

Simpsons, The
(television series), 127–128

Sincerity, 94

Smiles, 23, 50, 51, 68, 69

evolution of, 24–25

sincere and insincere, 94

types of, 21–22

Smoking, 86

Social comparisons, 139–141

Social connection, 92–93, 96–101, 145

Social engagement system, 40

Social Genomics Core Laboratory, University of California at Los Angeles, 190

Social resilience, 79–81

Social support, 156, 192–193

Solo activities, 93–95

Spiritual Evolution
(Vaillant), 182

Spirituality, 178–183

Sports, 69–70

Stress hormone, 50, 59

Stroke, 66, 86

Suffering

compassion and, 141–151

inevitability of, 106, 125

Supreme emotion, love as, 10, 14, 24, 194

Taipei brain imaging study, 46–47

Tales of the City
(Maupin), 152

Teach for America (TFA), 171, 173, 176, 177

Tenderness, 94, 104, 125

Thailand, 116

“Thank-yous,” 76

Thinking, Fast and Slow
(Kahneman), 167

Threat detection system, 19

Three loving connections exercise, 99–101

Touch, 20, 22, 39, 52, 148

Traherne, Thomas, 161, 184

Trust, 9, 28, 31, 32, 35, 48–50, 67

Unconditional love, 6, 20

University of California at Los Angeles, Social Genomics Core Laboratory, 190

University of Michigan, 70

University of North Carolina, 56

University of Virginia, 70

University of Wisconsin–Madison, 133

Vacharkulksemsuk, Tanya, 71, 72

Vagal tone, 54–58, 84, 85, 97, 183, 190

Vagus nerve, 40–41, 53–57, 60, 61

Vaillant, George, 182

Varieties of Religious Experience, The
(James), 180

Visualization, 107–109, 118, 120–122, 124, 125, 150–151, 156, 157, 163, 164

Western culture, 18, 39, 68, 116, 161

White blood cells, 85

Whitman, Walt, 113, 115, 134

Wills, Jeremy, 170–178

Wisdom, 21, 60, 81–84, 122

Wishful thinking, 105, 131

Work teams, 72–73, 81

Zurich study, 48–49