Free Yourself from Fears (30 page)

FREE YOURSELF FROM FEARS

Chapter 11 Fear as a Sign to Take Action
For information on the Darwin awards, see www.darwinawards.com
Chapter 12 How We Assess Safety and Risk
For the best overview of risk, see Peter L Bernstein (1996)
Against the
Gods
, John Wiley & Sons.

Daniel Kahneman & Amos Tversky (1984) “Choices, values and frames,”
American Psychologist
, Vol. 39, No. 4, pp 342–7.

Chapter 13 Acting on Fear: When to Heed the Warning
For research on rapport see William Condon (1982) “Cultural Microrhythms,” in M Davis (ed.),
Interaction Rhythms: Periodicity in
Communicative Behavior
, Human Sciences Press; Howard Friedman

& Ronald Riggio (1981) “The effect of individual differences in nonverbal expressiveness on transmission of emotion,”
Journal of
Nonverbal Behaviour
, Vol. 6.

For cross-cultural body language see Desmond Morris (1994)
Body
Talk: A World Guide to Gestures
, Jonathon Cape.

For personal safety and danger signs see Gavin de Becker (1997)
The
Gift of Fear
, Little Brown.

Chapter 14 Trust and Intuition: Your Two Guides
For metaprogram patterns on trust see Shelle Rose Charvet (1997)
Words that Change Minds
, Kendall-Hunt.

For an interesting article on intuition, see http://www.fastcompany.com/online/38/klein.html
Chapter 15 The Value Behind the Fear

The best approach to self-esteem in NLP is Steve Andreas (2002)
Transforming Your Self: Reinventing Who You Want to Be
, Real People Press.

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REFERENCES

Chapter 16 Dealing with Fear in the Body
For details of the Alexander technique see www.Alexandertechnique.com

Society of the teachers of the Alexander technique: www.stat.org.uk

For witnessing and spirituality see Ken Wilber (1998)
The Essential
Ken Wilber
, Shambhala; Thomas Leonard & Michael Murphy (1995)
The Life We Are Given
, Penguin.

For relaxation resources see Martha Davis (1997)
The Relaxation and
Stress Reduction Workbook
, HarperCollins.

For a comprehensive list of relaxation CDs and tapes, see http://www.relaxation.clara.net/

Chapter 17 Dealing with Fear in the Mind
About St. Peter’s Church, Rome:

http://www.roma2000.it/zschpiet.html

http://www.twenj.com/rometour1.htm

The Hydra: http://www.pantheon.org/articles/h/hydra.html For an interesting approach to emotional freedom, see Peter Levine (1997)
Waking the Tiger
, North Atlantic Books.

Chapter 19 Emotional Freedom: Here and Now
Read Ken Wilber (1991)
Grace and Grit
, Newleaf Publishing.

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Bibliography

There are also other books listed in the References.

Andreas, Steve (2002)
Transforming Your Self
, Real People Press.

Bassett, Lucinda (1997)
From Panic to Power
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Beck, Don & Cowan, Christopher (1996)
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Becker, Gavin de (1997)
The Gift of Fear
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Bernstein, Peter L. (1996)
Against the Gods: The Remarkable Story of
Risk
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Bolstad, R. (2002)
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Bourke, Joanna (2005)
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The Life We Are Given
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About the Author

Joseph O’Connor

Joseph O’Connor is an internationally recognized author, trainer, executive coach, and consultant. He is a certified NLP trainer and a leading author in the field of leadership and systems thinking. He is the author of 16 books, which have been translated into 25 languages. His first book,
Introducing NLP
, is an international bestseller and has been established as the basic introductory text in NLP for over 14 years.

Joseph is in demand internationally as a trainer and consultant and was the first European trainer to give NLP seminars in Chile, where he presented NLP to a special conference attended by CEOs and members of the Chilean Senate, including a Presidential candidate. He has trained in Europe, North and South America, Asia, and New Zealand. He was awarded the medal of the Singapore National Community Leadership Institute for his work in training and consultancy in 1996.

His consultancy clients have included BT, UNIDO, BA, and HP

Invent.

He lives in São Paulo, Brazil.

Contact Joseph at [email protected].

Lambent do Brasil

Lambent do Brasil was founded by Joseph O’Connor and Andrea Lages and is based in São Paulo, Brazil. The company specializes in providing the best resources in coaching, consultancy, and NLP training at every level, to develop individuals and companies.

Lambent do Brasil are founders of the Brazilian Association of Coaching and the Mexican Association of Coaching. They also supplied the majority of the training on the first National Coaching Register training in the UK, leading to a postgraduate degree in executive coaching from Derby University.

They also give the International Coaching certification training.

See www.lambentdobrasil.com or contact [email protected].

International Coaching Community (ICC)
The International Coaching Community is a group of trained and qualified coaches who have passed successfully through the International Coaching Certification training. There are currently over 600 coaches in 23 countries.

The ICC was founded by Joseph O’Connor and Andrea Lages. The Community has a shared commitment to quality, ethics, and high standards in coaching.

For details see www.internationalcoachingcommunity.com or contact [email protected].

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• Contents
  
• The nine laws of fear
  
• Introduction
  
• PART I Our Experience of Fear
  
  • CHAPTER 1 What Is Fear?
    
  • CHAPTER 2 Fear�Friend or Foe?
    
  • CHAPTER 3 Learning and UnlearningFear
    
  • CHAPTER 4 The Language of Fear
    
• PART IIUnreal Fear�Fear as Foe
  
  • CHAPTER 5 Fear in Time
    
  • CHAPTER 6 Common Fears that Hold Us Hostage
    
  • CHAPTER 7 Unquiet Times and Turbulent Minds
    
  • CHAPTER 8 Social Fears
    
  • CHAPTER 9 The Pressure to Achieve: The Price of Perfectionism
    
  • CHAPTER 10 Dealing with Change: The Uncertain Future
    
• PART III Authentic Fear�Fear as Friend
  
  • The nine laws of safety
    
  • CHAPTER 11 Fear as a Sign to Take Action
    
  • CHAPTER 12 How We Assess Safety and Risk
    
  • CHAPTER 13 Acting on Fear: When to Heed the Warning
    
  • CHAPTER 14 Trust and Intuition: Your Two Guides
    
• PART IV Finding Freedom�Techniques to Overcome Your Fears
  
  • CHAPTER 15 The Value Behind the Fear
    
  • CHAPTER 16 Dealing with Fear in the Body
    
  • CHAPTER 17 Dealing with Fear in the Mind
    
  • CHAPTER 18 Freedom From Social Anxiety
    
  • CHAPTER 19 Emotional Freedom: Here and Now
    
• APPENDIX I Thinking about Thinking with NLP
  
• APPENDIX II Summary of Skills for Freedom
  
• References
  
• Bibliography
  
• About the Author