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over-generalising

filtering

discounting the positive

magnifying/minimising

emotional reasoning

jumping to conclusions

taking it personally

blaming yourself

name calling

wishful thinking.

Checklist – coping skills for cognitive work

In exposure work the coping skills are all about helping you manage your Anxiety so that you get through your goals. When you are trying to change your thought processes you need coping skills that will give you the confidence to let go of anxious thinking. Here are some tips:

Make a list of your strengths and positive qualities. Don’t include anything negative.

Tell yourself that what you perceive as your weaknesses and defects are all part of being human. Nobody is perfect.

Remember that you and your behaviour are not the same thing. Even if you do make a mistake, that doesn’t make you a bad person.

Understand your Anxiety. Knowledge is power, and now that you understand the physical signals of Anxiety, where they come from and why, you don’t need to be so alarmed about them.

Have compassion for yourself. Instead of blaming yourself, tell yourself that there are probably good reasons why you have anxious thoughts.

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