Female Ejaculation (39 page)

When you can circulate orgasmic energy as sexual play stimulates your erogenous zones, you don’t restrict the excitement to a small confined area. Rather, you spread the electricity. When your pleasure
balloon is as big as your body or even bigger, any part of your body can become as excited as your genitals during an explosive orgasm. As the sexual forces surge throughout your body, instead of seeking explosive release, they continue to surge higher and higher.

As the orgasmic energy expands, it floods your entire body with pulsing contractions and continuous wavelike vibrations. You shake all over, engulfed in surge after surge of pure liquid fire. By conserving and channeling orgasmic energy within, orgasm becomes a sacred energy event, an intimate communion, and a bonding of life forces, separate and distinct from momentary tension release.

With explosive orgasm, purely and simply, you discharge like a lightning bolt and lose energy. You expend the fuel that can propel you to higher states. With implosive orgasm, you still experience heart-opening, mind-blowing peaks of pleasure. You just do it in a different way.

Often, beginners resist the whole notion of giving up explosive orgasm. We understand why. They’ve always equated it with the peak of sexual ecstasy. We’re not trying to talk you out of the best feelings you’ve had thus far! Enjoy explosive orgasms whenever you want. We’re simply suggesting another option for you to expand your repertoire and experience potentially greater sensations.

Somraj used to feel the same way, never wanting to miss the luscious dessert after the great meal. As he became more multiply orgasmic, he changed his mind. Now, he prefers floating at peak pleasure because it’s more intense than any explosive orgasm he’s ever had.

But don’t give up anything. Just take your time, and shift your attention to the higher, finer frequencies that you miss when you’re madly humping away.

Alan and Donna Braeur’s book,
ESO: How You and Your Lover Can Give Each Other Hours of Extended Sexual Orgasm
, provided another valuable piece of the orgasmic puzzle when it was published in 1983. They identified three zones or categories of orgasm: single, multiple, and extended.

While people who experience single and multiple orgasms have wonderful explosions of equivalent intensity, extended sexual orgasm
is a state of continuous ecstasy that climbs endlessly. Even back in 1983, the Braeurs knew that the G-spot provides the ultimate sexual ecstasy. Clitoris play, according to them, usually only results in single or multiple explosions at the same level of pleasure.

The pleasure level of extended orgasm climbs higher and higher, becoming increasingly intense and reaching amazing states of ecstasy.

Extended orgasm usually starts with a single or multiple climax in most women and men. For men, it means an orgasm without ejaculation. Once started, lovers feel as if they’re actively reaching for more and more pleasure. Later on, extended orgasm becomes self-sustaining, requiring little or no effort for the continuous slow contractions to surge for minutes or even hours.

Most women need G-spot play blended with clitoris play to enter this zone. Some sexually adept women can enter this state with clitoris or other stimulation alone or even without any sexual stimulation. But there’s much more than stimulation involved, which is probably why so few women experience extended orgasm or ejaculation.

To enter this state, a woman must relax, let go, and surrender to the incredible sensations of pleasure sweeping through her. Because most women can’t go from zero to 60 instantaneously, occasional leveling helps. She ramps up, absorbing pleasure that fills her balloon a little, and then floats for a moment before climbing higher with more stimulation.

Because sexual energy is conserved instead of expended, these streams of ecstasy can go on and on. It’s the ultimate in recycling, the ultimate experience of prolonged peak pleasure.

Beyond excitement, beyond single orgasm, beyond multiple climax, and even beyond extended orgasm lies the rarefied atmosphere of the O-Zone, the “Orgasm Zone.”

Like an Olympic gold medalist who reaches the “zone” where impossible athletic feats come effortlessly, you can reach these continuous streaming amounts of pleasure through your body. The O-Zone is a timeless place where you float without effort, and the ecstasy soars of its own accord. In this meditative, altered state of consciousness, your heart rate and blood pressure actually go down. The boundaries with your beloved disappear as you merge with the entire cosmos. Anyone who’s been there will tell you that they want to stay forever, never wanting the supreme bliss to end.

A hallmark of this state is that it doesn’t have to end until you choose to stop. Wonderfully, you’ll stay aroused above your resting state for up to 24 hours. During this time, those delicious orgasmic contractions can easily be restarted, sometimes just by remembering them. Not only does it feel awesome, but it’s good for you. You’ll feel less irritable, less tense, and less stressed. You’ll feel healthier, happier, more relaxed. In this rapture, it seems as if our physical limitations disappear, and we float with all boundaries dissolved.

Let’s get down to the nitty gritty of how you get to sensational ecstasy on your way to experiencing female ejaculation. The path to extended orgasm and the O-Zone doesn’t focus exclusively on the best or strongest technique and how much stimulation you can create in the shortest possible time. Instead, you focus on filling your pleasure balloon.

The first secret is peaking, which means to enjoy excitement as it rises to a high level. Then, instead of going for more and the resulting explosion, immediately change, slow down, or stop the stimulation. It’s a sudden surge of turn-on that you let come back down without going over the top. Peaking just before an orgasm is, of course, great fun.

If you graph peaking, it looks like a steep ascent up a mountain followed immediately by a steep descent, which is where it got its name.

Some people can’t understand why you would want to back off from something that feels so good. We’ve answered that question extensively, haven’t we? By drawing out the process, you get longer and higher pleasure. Your ultimate orgasm is more intense, often transitioning to an extended one. The more you peak, the more sexual energy you pump into your pleasure balloon.

However, so many of us try to get it over with rapidly because we’re programmed with taboos, shame, and guilt about sex. Women worry that they won’t have an orgasm, so they push for it at every opportunity.

If you’ve always pushed for as much excitement as you can muster as quickly as possible, practice peaking by yourself. Begin by ramping up and absorbing pleasure that fills your balloon a little. Then, float for a little while before climbing higher with more stimulation. This practice applies to men as well as women.