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PRACTICE:
RECEIVER LEADS TO MAXIMUM PLEASURE
These directions are very similar to the previous practice with one major adjustment. Givers, don’t do anything at all unless you’re asked. If she asks for something, immediately comply. If you’re uncertain, ask yes or no questions to decide what to do, if anything.
 
Contrary to earlier practice, these directions are written to the receiver.
1.
PREPARE WITH THE FIVE S’S
Supplies, Showering, Setting, Stretching, Settling, and Stimulating.
Discuss the Partnering Questions. Tell your partner not to act without your specific instructions.
2.
USE THE FOUR BASIC STROKES AND VARIATIONS
Guide your partner to employ in-and-out, holding, circling, and come-hither strokes, along with a variety of pressures, speeds, and fingers.
3.
RISE TO HIGHER LEVELS OF PLEASURE
Using the entire range of moves you’ve discovered you enjoy, ask for different strokes, fingers, pressures, speeds, and interruptions according to what feels best in each moment in order to rise to higher and higher plateaus of pleasure.
4.
COMMUNICATE
Communicate as much as your state of arousal allows. Use one-word sentences, sounds, and movements to guide your partner. If you get to the place where words distract you, give your partner permission to follow your breath, sounds, and movements. Just be sure you don’t abdicate control with a blanket “do whatever you want.” Instead, give a focus or direction to your partner with statements like, “Follow me deeper and deeper” or “Speed up as I speed up.”
5.
BE RESPONSIVE AND GIVE AMPLE SIGNALS
Use the four cornerstones of supreme bliss to continuously expand your pleasure and give ample cues to your partner. If you want, ask your lover to breathe, move, and make sounds in rhythm with you in order to feel your energy in their body.
6.
FOLLOW YOUR OWN INTUITION
Be open to whatever happens, and let it be. Listen to your own inner signals about what you’re feeling, what you want, and what would feel best now. Play, test, and experiment with whatever occurs to you.
7.
DON’T CHANGE WHAT’S WORKING
When something really turns you on, see how much sensation you can absorb and appreciate. Remind your partner to avoid the natural tendency to speed up with more pressure when something produces a really strong reaction from you.
8.
ORGASM
If you have an orgasm, enjoy it! Though a higher level of pleasure is your aim here, you can’t get it wrong whether you have an orgasm or not. If you do have an orgasm, hold still at least for a moment after you go over the top to judge if you want to continue. You’ll probably be extremely sensitive for a few moments, but continued stimulation may be something new that you want to experience. If you do, go for it! You may just be rewarded with an explosion of ejaculate.
9.
CLOSING
Along with the sweet routine of maintaining physical contact, curling up together, and breathing in unison until your metabolisms return to normal, be sure to fully discuss both of your experiences. Decide what you want to explore further next time.
Givers may begin to feel like more of an artist with their beloved partner as the canvas. We encourage you to branch out into multiple variations in terms of speed and pressure, as well as stopping, vibrating, tapping, milking, and withdrawing.
We sincerely want you to sense the never-ending variety of G-spot play. As you integrate the attitudes of “pleasure in the moment” and “self-love as a reflection of the divine,” we guarantee you’ll never have a boring moment of sex play, ever again — whether you achieve ejaculation every time or not.
CHAPTER 6
SEXUAL HEALING
“Our sexuality is not only something that can be used for the enhancement of an intimate relationship, for physical pleasure or for procreation. It can also be used for personal transformation, physical and emotional healing, self-realization and spiritual growth, and as a way to learn about all of life and death.”
— ANNIE SPRINKLE, PORN STAR TURNED SEX EDUCATOR
 
Sex is natural. Sex is healthy. Your mind, body, and soul can link together to create untold sexual ecstasy and bliss. Yet, few of us live an ecstatic life.
We all have the potential to achieve these sexual heights, but often, there are psychological blocks in the way. If you have little interest in sex, react negatively to sexual experiences, or have trouble letting go during sex, this chapter is for you. Even if you have a full sex life, you may find that you have difficulty achieving orgasm or feel little
sensation when your G-spot is stimulated. If you fall into that category, this chapter is for you, too!
OUR TRUE NATURE
Inside each of us is a spontaneous, joyous, playful, childlike spirit who wants to be free to savor everything and love everyone. Your body is the vehicle of your soul, sexual pleasure is a divine gift, and ecstasy is your birthright.
We all naturally build up sexual energy, and it’s healthy to regularly exercise and release it. How wonderful that something so good for you is also great fun.
Just like breathing and eating, sex is meant to be a natural part of our lives. But somewhere along the way, most of us lose that easygoing balance.
WHAT WENT WRONG
How did we lose our basic nature of playfulness and sexual ecstasy? In western culture, we’re taught that our sexual energies are dangerous. We’re made to believe that we must contain our sexuality and keep it in check. We’re made to live unnaturally by social conditioning and moral codes that don’t serve our inherent make-up. All the do’s and don’ts of human society produce inner struggles against our basic desires. The next thing we know, our sexual energies are in a cage, and this contributes to the difficulties of enjoying G-spot play, orgasmic energy, and female ejaculation.
Growing up in our sexually immature and repressed society, none of us can avoid accumulating energetic sexual blocks. We’re lectured to, corrected, and made wrong for our instincts and natural proclivities.
At young and vulnerable ages, we wade into the scary arena of sexuality largely unprepared and uneducated. In other words … ignorant.
We’re peppered with learning taboos, injunctions, and the multifarious definitions of the sins of the flesh. Often, it’s religious imprinting that creates these huge inhibitions and enormous loads of guilt and shame.
Women and men who’ve been sexually exploited, abused, and wounded may carry even more baggage. This negative energy is held in the G-spot. For too many, carrying this baggage gets in the way of enjoyment, orgasm, and ejaculation.
DON’T RUN OR HIDE — PLAY!
Do you want to become sexually whole? Do you hope to experience more and more sexual pleasure? Do you look forward to higher and higher peaks of sexual ecstasy?
To fully open to the joys of sexuality requires a clearing of negative programming. We all have varying degrees of sexual negativity to clear, but trust us — it can be done!
So, how do you shed the social conventions that bring you down? How do you release the guilt that keeps you boxed in? How do you heal old wounds? Healing and letting go into the pleasures of sex are what this chapter are all about. It’s the precursor to achieving ejaculation. If you have any blocks that prevent you from experiencing this “letting go” from your G-spot, the work you do as a result of this chapter will help you reach your goal and much more.
EXERCISE:
OPENING DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
What do you feel is your basic nature?
Do you remember when you felt fully open and alive? How old were you?
What did you learn that helped you shut down to that childlike playfulness?
SEXUAL RESISTANCE
When we relax, exercise our erogenous zones, and enjoy our bodies, we often run into the old baggage that blocks excitement and pleasure.
We’ve all been through one or another of these scenarios:
You meet someone you find very attractive. You finally get to the big moment in bed, and either your energy isn’t there, or your new lover’s desire goes flat. What happened?
You’ve been thinking about sex for days, and now, you finally have the opportunity. But suddenly, you end up in an argument, and sex and communion become the last thing either of you wants.
You’re a hot and sexy lover, and you fall for a wonderful guy or gal. You absolutely adore oral sex, but he won’t taste your vagina, or she won’t taste your penis. Now, what do you do?
At last, you’ve fallen for your dream lover. The first six months are fabulous: juicy days and hotter nights. Then, for no apparent reason, she’s no longer interested in sex, or his erections take a vacation.
You marry even though you know your spouse doesn’t have much of a sex drive. You hope it will change, or you tell yourself that it isn’t important. Too often, it doesn’t change, and in the long run, it really is important, isn’t it?

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