F*ck Feelings (49 page)

hookups, casual,
204
–5

hope,
96

hormones,
199

hostage negotiators,
237

hot air,
59

hot sauce intake,
308

humiliation:

avoiding,
55
,
56
,
60
,
291

bearing,
77
,
78

husband:

and couples therapy,
206
,
216
,
233
,
317
,
320
,
327

having an affair,
208
,
210

out with the guys,
91
–92

and spouse abuse,
239
,
254
,
330

hypnotism,
150
,
262

identity, true,
95

idiots, fucking,
344

illusion,
238

impulsivity,
27

incentives,
72
,
90
,
93

indifference,
178

infidelity,
208
,
210

injustice:

examples,
126

lasting scars from,
76

protecting victims of,
124
–29

your script,
129

see also
justice/closure

in-laws,
22
,
151
,
152
,
155
,
257
,
259
,
275
,
293

insecurity,
23

internal-value calculator,
43

Internet dating,
181
,
183

Intervention,
33
,
118
,
120
,
123

interventions,
121
,
267

intestinal gas,
234

intimidation,
55
–62

invisibility,
312

iPhone, gold,
55

Iran, sanctions on,
132

irritability,
150
,
342
–43

isolation,
47

it is what it is,
48
,
52
,
212

“I told you so,”
238

jail:

hospital vs.,
266

keeping the kid out of,
255
,
262

janitors, interviews with,
137

Japanese animation,
8

Jebus,
91
,
156

jerk:

acting like,
42
,
44
,
285

teenagers,
127
,
145
–46,
261
–68

see also
asshole; Assholes

jerk, raising,
261
–68

examples,
263
–64

quick diagnosis,
266
–67

your script,
267
–68

Jesus of Nazareth,
145
,
177

Judge Judy,
20
,
83
–84

Jumbotron,
244

Jung, Carl,
328

jungle:

distraction in,
27

life as,
78

justice:

biblical variety of,
287

sword of,
125

justice/closure,
76
,
102
–8

dealing with bad things,
105
–6

examples,
104
–5

lust for,
77

what should happen but doesn't,
104

your script,
107
–8

kabbalah,
20

kale,
142

King's Speech, The
(movie),
50

Kool-Aid parties,
44

Kraken,
309

Lastname, Doctor,
1

learning disabilities,
259
,
268
–76

behavior management,
272

“Can't, or won't?,”
268
–69

examples,
270
–71

finding help,
271

interventions,
273

medication,
271
,
273

quick diagnosis,
274
–75

and school system,
272
–73

your script,
275

Lebowski, Jeffery “The Dude,”
143

letting go,
105
–6,
114
,
163
,
168
,
173
,
176
,
195
,
207
,
208
,
211
,
241
–42

letting things slide,
17

libido,
201

life-changing conversation,
237
–45

examples,
239
–40

quick diagnosis,
242
–43

your script,
243

life companion,
182

Lifetime movies,
192

limits:

accepting,
7
–9,
40
,
72
,
195
–96,
316

respecting,
221

setting,
147
,
282
,
308

listening,
54
,
135

lobotomy,
338

lobotomy manual,
3

locks, changing,
172

Lockup
(MSNBC),
32
,
42

loneliness,
47
,
178
,
218
,
227

loser's curse, fighting,
43
–49

examples,
45

management,
46
–47

quick diagnosis,
47
–48

vicious circle of,
46

your script,
48
–49

loss, recovery from,
162
–68,
318

Lourdes, visiting,
116

love,
177
–214

as blind,
182

changing for,
192
–98

commitment,
185
–91

and communication,
216

downside of,
177
–78

falling out of,
210

finding someone,
178
–85

and hate,
143
-49,
214

lost,
206
–14

poor choice for,
319

and sex,
198
–206

use-by date,
209

love-hate relationships,
143
–49

examples,
145
–46

quick diagnosis,
148

your script,
148
–49

love potion,
207

luck,
41
,
42
,
46
,
49
,
203
–4,
248

lust,
199

lying,
29
,
70
,
80
,
96
–98,
124
–25,
145
–46,
276
,
297
–303

magical powers,
125
,
318

magic shows,
121

mantras,
162

marriage,
see
commitment

masturbation,
199

matchmakers,
182

mate, finding,
178
–85

Mayan secrets, ancient,
200

medication,
271
,
315
,
319
,
325
,
332
,
334
–35,
339

meditation,
312
,
337

Melfi, Doctor,
315

meltdown,
12

mental hospital, commitment in,
266
,
339

mental illness,
39
–40,
341
–44

dealing with crazy person,
154
–55,
213
–14,
285

husband's ex with,
79

protection from crazies,
81

treatments,
see
treatment

mentor,
319

middle finger:

communicating with,
215

position of,
22

midwives,
248

misunderstandings,
255

money-crazed monster,
288

mood fluctuations,
213

moral entitlement,
92
–93

mother:

“because I said so,”
18

death of,
164
–65

with dementia,
113

drama queen,
292
–93

making things up,
97
–98

mean,
146
,
147

not her fault,
9

motivation,
18
,
26
,
27
,
141

Mr. Wrong,
17

MTV,
285

mugging,
80
,
157
–58

Muggle status,
13

murder,
109
,
150

mustache, AKA facial topiary,
49

Myers-Briggs test,
31

names:

for children,
248

power of,
95

narcissistic personality disorder,
285

nastiness,
21
,
25

signs of,
22

trying too hard to control,
26

negative feelings,
20
–25,
343
–44

coaching on relief of,
115

evolutionary reasons for,
23

examples,
22
–23

expressing,
236

having to live with,
23
–24,
52

quick diagnosis,
24
–25

should-a/could-a thoughts,
107

your script,
25

negotiations,
59
,
90
,
93
,
235
,
237
,
238

neighbors:

annoying,
151
,
152
–53

crazy,
57

nervousness,
51

neutrality,
173

New England Patriots,
302

nice guy:

finishing last,
201

marrying,
201
,
203

normality,
65
–66

North Korean labor camp,
149

obesity,
71
,
72
–73

obsession,
230
,
247
–48,
252
,
318

openness,
86
,
87
–88

Oprah,
7
,
14
,
15
,
42
,
49
,
238

others' sorrow, easing,
110
–17

dealing with,
113
–15

dumb things we say,
116
–17

examples,
112
–13

letting go,
114

powers needed for,
112

quick diagnosis,
115

your script,
116

out of control,
10
–15

examples,
11
–12

quick diagnosis,
13

your child,
266

your script,
14

OxyContin,
109

pain:

and alcohol use,
166

behaviors based on,
165

chronic,
157

prolonging,
165
–66

rewarding,
135

unending,
111
,
114
,
318

panic attacks,
156

panic mode,
248

paranoia,
306

parent/child conflict,
255
–61

examples,
132
,
256
–57

quick diagnosis,
260
–61

your script,
261

parenthood,
246
–83

and divorce,
276
–83

good/overprotective/bad,
254
–55

living with learning disability,
268
–76

not ruining your baby,
247
–55

parent/child conflict,
255
–61

raising a jerk,
261
–68

as team sport,
281
–82

thankless tasks in,
281

parents:

asshole,
291
–97

relationship with,
92
,
97
–98,
113
,
232
–33,
234

Parker, Dorothy,
57

patience,
300

peacemakers,
129
–35

examples,
131
–32

quick diagnosis,
134

your script,
134
–35

peace of mind,
143

pedophilia,
199

Pegasus,
125

people as objects,
199

perfectionism,
44

persistence,
91
,
300

persuasion, power of,
50
–55

examples,
51
–52

quick diagnosis,
53
–54

your script,
54
–55

Petfinder,
168

phony, world's biggest,
11
–12

plastic surgery,
44

platform shoes,
62

Poehler, Amy,
Yes Please,
83
n

porn, addiction to,
35

postpartum depression,
194

powerlessness,
257

prayer,
32

pregnancy, avoiding alcohol in,
251

primal scream therapy,
329

Prince,
61
–62

priorities,
127
,
175
,
195

privacy:

right to,
97

teen's need for,
220

problems:

like snowflakes,
40