Dirty Little Secrets (25 page)

3
.  Anthony Biglan, C. W. Metzler, R. Wirt, D. Ary, J. Noell, L. Ochs, C. French, and D. Hood, “Social and Behavioral Factors Associated with High-Risk Sexual Behavior among Adolescents,”
Journal of Behavioral Medicine
13, no. 3 (1990): 245–261.

4
.  “Study Links Teen Drug and Alcohol Use with Promiscuity,”
CNN.com
, December 7, 1999,
articles.cnn.com/1999-12-07/us/teens.drugs.sex_1_teens-alcohol-drugs?_s=PM:US
.

5
.  P. A. Cavazos-Rehg, E. L. Spitznagel, K. K. Bucholz, K. Norberg, W. Reich, I. Nurnberger Jr, V. Hesselbrock, J. Kramer, S. Kuperman, L. J. Bierut, “The Relationship between Alcohol Problems and Dependence, Conduct Problems and Diagnosis, and Number of Sex Partners in a Sample of Young Adults,”
Alcoholism: Clinical and Experimental Research
31, no. 12 (2007): 2046–2052.

6
.  Sophie Borland, “Legacy of the Ladette: Now Alarming Rise in Teenage Promiscuity and Abortions Is Linked to Women’s Binge Drinking,”
Mail Online
, August 21, 2010,
www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1304833/The-Legacy-ladette-binge-drinking-women-linked-rise-casual-sex-abortionsprescriptions-morning-pill.html#ixzz18ItsxRCX
.

7
.  Sheila B. Blume, “Sexuality and Stigma: The Alcoholic Woman,”
Alcohol Health and Research World
15, no. 2 (1991): 139–46. For a recent discussion of examples of blaming the victim regarding rape, see Elaine Grant, “A New Era in Handling Campus Rape,” New Hampshire Public Radio, April 4, 2011, retrieved April 5, 2011,
www.nhpr.org/new-era-handling-campus-rape
.

8
.  It remains intensely difficult to untangle what really is standard or normal when the culture has determined for us already that no sex in any way is normal for a teen. Suddenly, the question of whether a behavior causes someone extreme distress—a typical psychologist’s question when determining whether behavior needs to be addressed—becomes doubtful: a girl may well feel tremendous shame about behavior that isn’t so horrible when that behavior is removed from cultural mores. We have to wonder whether the real trouble is the behavior or the labeling of the behavior as a problem.

9
.  Craig Nakken,
The Addictive Personality
, 2nd ed. (Center City, MN: Hazelden Publishing, 1988).

10
. Kelly McDaniel,
Ready to Heal: Women Facing Love, Sex, and Relationship Addiction
(Carefree, AZ: Gentle Path Press, 2008), For the leading experts’ words on love and sex addiction, see also Pia Mellody’s
Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love
(New York: HarperCollins, 1992) and Patrick Carnes’s
Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sex Addiction
(Center City, MN: Hazelden Publishing, 2001).

11
. E. O. Paolucci, M. L. Genuis, and C. Violato, “A Meta-Analysis of the Published Research on the Effects of Child Sexual Abuse,”
Journal of Psychology
135, no. 1 (2001): 17–36.

12
. Heather Corinna, “Who’s Calling Who Compulsive? Calling Out a Common Rape Survivor Stereotype,”
Scarleteen.com
, June 6, 2010,
www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather_corinna/2010/06/06/whos_calling_who_compulsive_calling_out_a_common_rape_survivor_stere
.

13
. Becky and Kathy Liddle, “More Than Good Intentions: How to Be an Ally to the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Community,”
Auburn Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual Caucus
, retrieved April 5, 2011,
www.auburn.edu/aglbc/ally.htm
.

Chapter 7

1
.  “Facts on American Teens’ Sexual and Reproductive Health,” Guttmacher Institute, January 2011,
www.guttmacher.org/pubs/FB-ATSRH.html
.

2
.  Laura M. Carpenter,
Virginity Lost: An Intimate Portrait of First Sexual Experiences
(New York: New York University Press, 2005).

3
.  The Henry J. Kaiser Family Foundation and
Seventeen
Magazine, “Virginity and the First Time: A Series of National Surveys of Teens about Sex,” Henry J. Kaiser Family Foundation, October 2003,
www.kff.org/entpartnerships/upload/Virginity-and-the-First-Time-Summary-of-Findings.pdf
.

4
.  Bill Albert, “National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, ‘With One Voice 2007: America’s Adults and Teens Sound Off about Teen Pregnancy: A Periodic National Survey,’” The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, February 2007,
www.thenationalcampaign.org/resources/pdf/pubs/WOV2007_fulltext.pdf
.

5
.  Judith Levine,
Harmful to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children from Sex
(New York: Thunder’s Mouth Press, 2003), 160.

6
.  Kaiser Family Foundation, T. Hoff, L. Greene, and J. Davis, “National Survey of Adolescence and Young Adults: Sexual Health Knowledge, Attitudes and Behaviors,” Henry J. Kaiser Family Foundation, May 2003,
www.kff.org/youthhivstds/upload/National-Survey-of-Adolescents-and-Young-Adults-Sexual-Health-Knowledge-Attitudes-and-Experiences-Summary-of-Findings.pdf
.

7
.  S. A. Vannier and L. F. O’Sullivan, “Sex without Desire: Characteristics of Occasions of Sexual Compliance in Young Adults’ Committed Relationships,”
Journal of Sex Research
47, no. 5 (2010): 429–439.

8
.  Latoya Peterson, “The Not-Rape Epidemic,” in
Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World without Rape
, ed. Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti (Berkeley, CA: Seal Press, 2008), 209–219.

9
.  Lee Jacob Riggs, “A Love Letter from an Anti-Rape Activist to Her Feminist Sex-Toy Store,” in Friedman and Valenti,
Yes Means Yes!
, 114.

10
. Levine,
Harmful to Minors
, 89.

11
. Jill Filipovic, “Offensive Feminism: The Conservative Gender Norms That Perpetuate Rape Culture, and How Feminists Can Fight Back,” in Friedman and Levine,
Yes Means Yes!
, 19.

12
. Sexual Abuse Statistics, Teen Help.com, retrieved April 5, 2011,
www.teenhelp.com/teen-abuse/sexual-abuse-stats.html
.

13
. T. Luster and S. A. Small, “Sexual Abuse History and Number of Sex Partners among Female Adolescents,”
Family Planning Perspectives
29, no. 5 (1997): 204–211.

14
. J. H. Beitchman, K. Zucker, J. Hood, G. DaCosta, and D. Akman, “A Review of the Long-Term Effects of Child Sexual Abuse,”
Child Abuse and Neglect
16 (1992): 101–118.

Chapter 8

1
.  National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy and
Cosmogirl.com
, “Sex and Tech, Results from a Survey of Teens and Young Adults,” National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, retrieved April 5, 2011,
www.thenationalcampaign.org/sextech/PDF/SexTech_Summary.pdf
.

2
.  “Home Computer Access and Internet Use,”
Child Trends Databank
,June2010,
www.childtrendsdatabank.org/?q=node/298
.

3
.  For a list of sexting legislation for each state, see “2010 Legislation Related to ‘Sexting,’” National Conference of State Legislature, January 4, 2011,
www.ncsl.org/default.aspx?tabid=19696
.

4
.  For more on Jesse Logan and the
Today
show interview with Parry Aftab, see Mike Celizic, “Her Teen Committed Suicide Over ‘Sexting,’” Today Parenting, March 6, 2009,
today.msnbc.msn.com/id/29546030
.

5
.  For more on Hope Witsell’s story, see Michael Inbar, “’Sexting’ Bullying Cited in Teen’s Suicide,”
Today People
, December 2, 2009,
today.msnbc.msn.com/id/34236377/ns/today-today_people/
.

6
.  Mike Brunker, “‘Sexting’ Surprise: Six Teens Face Child Porn Charges,”
MSNBC.com
, January 15, 2009,
www.msnbc.msn.com/id/28679588/
.

7
.  Vicki Mabrey and David Perozzi, “‘Sexting’: Should Child Pornography Laws Apply?”
ABCnews.com
, April 1, 2010,
abcnews.go.com/Nightline/phillip-alpert-sexting-teen-child-porn/story?id=10252790
.

8
.  Berkman Center for Internet and Society, “Enhancing Child Safety & Online Technologies,” Harvard University, December 31, 2008,
cyber.law.harvard.edu/sites/cyber.law.harvard.edu/files/ISTTF_Final_Report-Executive_Summary.pdf
.

9
.  Riva Richmond, “Sexting May Place Teens at Legal Risk,”
New York Times
, March 26, 2009,
gadgetwise.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/03/26/sexting-may-place-teens-at-legal-risk/
.

10
. Dawn Turner Trice, “Girls, Don’t Dumb Yourselves Down in Social Media,”
Chicago Tribune
, November 12, 2010, c.

11
. Judith Levine,
Harmful to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children from Sex
(New York: Thunder’s Mouth Press, 2003), 149.

12
. Facebook Horror Stories, True Facebook Stories, retrieved April 5, 2011,
www.facebook-horror-stories.com/
.

13
. Russell Goldman, “Facebook Status ‘Engaged,’ but Cops Call It Statutory Rape,” ABCnews.com, September 14, 2010,
abcnews.go.com/Technology/facebook-status-read-engaged-copscall-statutory-rape/story?id=11626836&tqkw=&tqshow=
.

14
. Tamar Lewin, “Teenagers’ Internet Socializing Not a Bad Thing,”
New York Times
, November 19, 2008,
www.nytimes.com/2008/11/20/us/20internet.html?_r=1
.

15
. P. M. Valkenburg and J. Peter, “Social Consequences of the Internet for Adolescents: A Decade of Research,”
Current Directions in Psychological Science
18, no. 1 (2009): 1–5.

Chapter 9

1
.  Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider,
The Rules
(New York: Grand Central Publishing, 1995).

2
.  “Infidelity Statistics,” Menstuff, retrieved April 5, 2011,
www.menstuff.org/issues/byissue/infidelitystats.html
.

Chapter 10

1
.  James O. Prochaska, John C. Norcross, and Carlo C. DiClemente,
Changing for Good: A Revolutionary Six-Stage Program for Overcoming Bad Habits and Moving Your Life Positively Forward
(New York: Avon Books, 1994).

2
.  Most chapters of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous won’t accommodate teenagers, which I find disturbing. Although they are difficult to find, there are a few teen programs scattered throughout the nation, such as in New York and Portland, Oregon.

Chapter 11

1
.  M. M. Bersamin, S. Walker, E. D. Waiters, D. A. Fisher, and J. W. Grube, “Promising to Wait: Virginity Pledges and Adolescent Sexual Behavior,”
Journal of Adolescent Health
36, no. 5 (2005): 428–436.

2
.  Jocelyn M. Elders, foreword to Levine,
Harmful to Minors
, ix.

3
.  Patricia Donovan, “Falling Teen Pregnancy, Birthrates: What’s Behind the Declines?”
The Guttmacher Report on Public Policy
, vol. 1, October 1998; Steven Reinberg, “U.S. Teen Birth Rate Hit Record Low in 2009: CDC,” December 21, 2009,
health.msn.com/health-topics/sexual-health/birth-control/articlepage.aspx?cp-documentid=100268351
.

4
.  Levine,
Harmful to Minors
, 94.

5
.  “Not Just Another Thing to Do: Teens Talk about Sex, Regret, and the Influence of Their Parents,” The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, June 30, 2000,
www.thenationalcampaign.org/resources/pdf/pubs/NotJust_FINAL.pdf
.

6
.  A. Y. Akers, C. P. Lynch, M. A. Gold, J. C. Chang, W. Doswell, H. C. Wiesenfeld, W. Feng, and J. Bost, “Exploring the Relationship among Weight, Race, and Sexual Behaviors among Girls,”
Pediatrics
124 (2009): 913–920.

7
.  Joan Jacobs Brumberg, Introduction, Lauren Greenfield,
Girl Culture
(San Francisco: Chronicle Books, 2002).