Chasing Superwoman (17 page)

So Jane was right after all; it's not what I do that defines who I am. It's
whose
I am, not who I am. I know how the story ends. It ends in the arms of Jesus. It ends with grace, not guilt. And rather than floundering against the waves, I can hold still and float (even flow) with the current.

I love to read my kids the story of Punchinello
.
2
Punchinello is a Wemmick who is always getting bad marks. You see, the Wemmicks are wooden people, all made by the woodworker, Eli, and they go around all day putting stars and dots on one another. The stars signify good performance, while the dots represent bad marks. Punchinello has lots of dots. One day he meets another Wemmick, Lucia, who has no stars or dots. “How can this be?”
wonders Punchinello. Then Lucia tells him that it's easy—she goes to see the woodworker, Eli, every day and spends time with him. Lucia doesn't care what the other Wemmicks think—they're just Wemmicks after all. But Punchinello still isn't sure. He is completely terrified to go see Eli.

Yet he just can't live in a world of stars and dots, so he decides to take the plunge to go and visit Eli. Punchinello finally decides, “I don't want anyone's stars or dots.” So he goes to visit the woodworker, Eli. Just as he begins to understand his true identity, one of the dots falls off like magic.

Like Punchinello, I can't live up to anyone's expectations, including my own. The good news? I don't have to. The more I spend time with my maker—following the Spirit and floating in the river—the less I worry about what other people think.

Maybe Trusting Tracy was right after all. Floating sounds exhilarating, but sometimes I'm just not sure I can let go. The irony, of course, is that when I let go and rest in God's grace, I finally experience the freedom I've been longing for. As David Benner explains,

Floating is a good illustration of this, because you cannot float until you let go. Floating is putting your full weight on the water and trusting that you will be supported. It is letting go of your natural instincts to fight against sinking. Only then do you discover you are supported.
3

Have I gotten to the point where I don't care what anyone thinks? Of course not. But I don't sit around worrying about what God thinks about me. I know what He thinks. “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”
4
And approaching life like a river has given me an overwhelming sense of relief. I don't have to be Superwoman anymore. In fact, I don't even
want
to be Superwoman. From what I can tell, Superwoman doesn't exactly have Jesus on speed dial. And she's running, not floating.

I'm tired of running.

So instead of chasing Superwoman, I'm thanking God for His grace and trusting the Spirit to carry me through the waters of motherhood.

What about you?

My Mother's Sauce

I don't use a recipe when I make my mother's sauce. I've seen her make it so many times (and have made it myself so many times) that I can make it in my sleep. Just in case you want to give it a try, here's my best shot at a formal recipe. (Sorry, I never measure.)

Supplies:

• a 16-quart saucepan (the bigger the better—I've moved up to the 20-quart pan)

• a wooden spoon

• a kitchen full of children (optional)

Ingredients:

• olive oil

• garlic (the more the better)

• peppers and onions (optional)

• four to five 28-ounce cans of tomato sauce

• four to five 28-ounce cans of tomato puree

• one to two 28-ounce cans of crushed tomatoes

• Italian spices (basil, oregano—the fresher the better)

• three to four pounds of ground meat

• Italian-style bread crumbs

• two to three eggs

• parsley

• five to seven links of Italian sausage, both hot and mild (I cut them in small pieces after they cook)

Ten Steps to Perfection:

1. Wash your hands.

2. Make someone else (preferably over the age of eighteen) open all the cans of sauce.

3. Sautee garlic, onions, and peppers in a liberal amount of olive oil. Don't burn the garlic!

4. Dump the cans of sauce, puree, and crushed tomatoes into the saucepan (with the olive oil).

5. Add plenty of water (at least three to four empty cans) so the sauce doesn't burn as it cooks.

6. Make and roll your meatballs (ground meat, parsley, bread crumbs, eggs, and more garlic and Italian spices).

7. Drop the raw meatballs one by one into the saucepan.

8. Drop the raw Italian sausage into the saucepan (if you're on a diet, boil the fat out first).

9. Add Italian spices.

10. Stir occasionally and cook all day on low (the longer the better—at least six hours).

A couple of hints (a.k.a. lessons I learned the hard way):

• Don't burn the sauce—put it on the simmer burner, and if it sticks to the bottom of the pan, add water.

• If the meatballs are too mushy, add more bread crumbs. If the meatballs are too hard, add an egg (or some water).

• The best “job” for kids is making meatballs. Just make sure they wash their hands, and try to keep them away from the stove.

• Making sauce is an art, not a science. If you don't have a specific ingredient, feel free to improvise. Experimentation is always encouraged.

• Don't plan on leftovers. If you're smart, you'll freeze over half the pan for individual dinners before your friends and neighbors smell what you're up to.

Questions? Email me at [email protected] or visit my blog at http://susandimickele.blogspot.com.

Notes

Introduction

1
U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, “Women in the Labor Force: A Databook,” Report 1002 (2007),
www.bls.gov/cps/wlf-databook-2007.pdf
.

2
The Barna Group, “Americans Not Concerned About Their Spiritual Condition,” August 6, 2007,
www.barna.org/barna-update/article/12-faithspirituality/98-americans-not-concerned-about-their-spiritual-condition
.

Chapter 1: The Superwoman Within

1
Matthew 5:48 (
MSG
).

Chapter 2: Superwoman Has a Day Job

1
Colossians 3:23.

2
Ephesians 2:10.

Chapter 3: It Takes Children to Make a Mommy

1
Matthew 10:16.

2
Luke 1:56.

Chapter 4: The Daily Grind

1
1 Samuel 1:27.

2
1 Samuel 3:9.

Chapter 6: Superwoman Goes to Hollywood

1
2 Samuel 6:16–23.

2
Proverbs 22:6.

3
Proverbs 31:30.

Chapter 7: Superwoman Goes to Church

1
Matthew 24:10, 12.

Chapter 8: Adventures in Shopping

1
Luke 12:20.

Chapter 9: Generations of Superwomen

1
Acts 2:42.

Chapter 11: When Will I Get Some Rest, God?

1
Matthew 11:28–30.

2
Luke 9:13.

Chapter 12: Will I Ever Be Content?

1
Hebrews 13:5.

Chapter 14: Devoted Mommy

1
Proverbs 22:6 (
KJV
).

2
David G. Benner,
Surrender to Love
:
Discovering the Heart of Christian Spirituality
(Downers Grove, IL: Intervarsity Press, 2003), 67.

Chapter 15: Chasing Superwoman

1
Hannah Montana, “Who Said,”
Hannah Montana
© 2006 Walt Disney Records.

2
Max Lucado,
You Are Special
(Wheaton, IL: Crossway Books 1997).

3
Benner,
Surrender to Love
, 61–62.

4
2 Corinthians 12:9.

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“
Chasing Superwoman
is a beautifully simple story of the faith journey of a working mother learning to balance work, family, and marriage while trying to define her own calling to be a disciple of Christ. Susan DiMickele offers not only practical advice but also encouragement to women who struggle to be all things to all people—all the time. DiMickele tells her story with humor, grace, and a sense of humility, describing the challenges of discipleship for all people of faith in a world where God is increasingly marginalized and roles are not always clearly defined. Women will identify with her narrative and appreciate her realization that by the grace of God, we are all freed from the need to be perfect. A highly recommended read for working mothers—and fathers.”

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