Authors: David Beckham
âWho are you, son? Where have you come from? How did you come to be here?'
I'm sure Mum could dig it out of the pile: that first video of me in action. There I am, David Robert Joseph Beckham, aged three, wearing the new Manchester United uniform Dad had bought me for Christmas, playing soccer in the front room of our house in Chingford. Twenty-five years on, and Victoria could have filmed me having a kickabout this morning with Brooklyn before I left for training. For all that so much has happened during my lifeâand the shirt I'm wearing now is a different colorâsome things haven't really changed at all.
As a father watching my own sons growing up, I get an idea of what I must have been like as a boy; and reminders, as well, of what Dad was like with me. As soon as I could walk, he made sure I had a ball to kick. Maybe I didn't even wait for a ball. I remember when Brooklyn had only just got the hang of standing up. We were messing around together one afternoon after training. For some reason there was a tin of baked beans on the floor of the kitchen and, before I realized it, he'd taken a couple of unsteady steps towards it and kicked the thing as hard as you like. Frightening really: you could fracture a metatarsal doing that. Even as I was hugging him, I couldn't help laughing.
That must have been me.
It's just there, wired into the genes. Look at Brooklyn: he always wants
to be playing soccer, running, kicking, diving about. And he's already listening, like he's ready to learn. By the time he was three and a half, if I rolled the ball to him and told him to stop it, he'd trap it by putting his foot on it. Then he'd take a step back and line himself up before kicking it back to me. He's also got a great sense of balance. We were in New York when Brooklyn was about two and a half, and I remember us coming out of a restaurant and walking down some steps. He was standing, facing up towards Victoria and I, his toes on one step and his heels rocking back over the next. This guy must have been watching from inside the restaurant, because suddenly he came running out and asked us how old our son was. When I told him, he explained he was a child psychologist and that for Brooklyn to be able to balance himself over the step like that was amazing for a boy of his age.
It's a little too early to tell with my younger boy, Romeo, but Brooklyn has got a real confidence that comes from his energy, his strength, and his sense of coordination. He's been whizzing around on two-wheeled scootersâI mean flyingâfor years already. He's got a belief in himself, physically, that I know I had as well. When I was a boy, I only ever felt really sure of myself when I was playing soccer. In fact I'd still say that about me now, although Victoria has given me confidence in myself in all sorts of other ways. I know she'll do the same for Brooklyn and Romeo too.
For all that father and son have in common, Brooklyn and I are very different. By the time I was his age, I was already telling anyone who would listen: âI'm going to play soccer for Manchester United.' He says he wants to be a soccer player like Daddy, but United? We haven't heard that out of him yet. Brooklyn's a really strong, well-built boy. Me, though, I was always skinny. However much I ate it never made any difference while I was growing up. When I was playing soccer, I must have seemed even smaller because, if I wasn't with my dad and his mates, I was over at Chase Lane Park, just round the corner from the house, playing with boys twice my age. I don't know if it was because
I was good or because they could kick me up in the air and I'd come back for more, but they always turned up on the doorstep after school:
âMrs Beckham? Can David come and have a game in the park?'
I spent a lot of time in Chase Lane Park. If I wasn't there with the bigger boys like Alan Smith, who lived two doors away on our road, I'd be there with my dad. We'd started by kicking a ball about in the back garden but I was murdering the flowerbeds so, after he got in from his job as a heating engineer, we'd go to the park together and just practice and practice for hours on end. All the strengths in my game are the ones Dad taught me in the park twenty years ago: we'd work on touch and striking the ball properly until it was too dark to see. He'd kick the ball up in the air as high as he could and get me to control it. Then it would be kicking it with each foot, making sure I was doing it right. It was great, even if he did drive me mad sometimes. âWhy can't you just go in goal and let me take shots at you?' I'd be thinking. I suppose you could say he was pushing me along. You'd also have to say, though, that it was all I wanted to do and I was lucky Dad was so willing to do it with me.
My dad, Ted, played himself for a local team called Kingfisher in the Forest and District League, and I would go along with my mum Sandra, my older sister Lynne and baby Joanne to watch him play. He was a center-forward; Mark Hughes, but rougher. He had trials for Leyton Orient and played semi-professional for a couple of years at Finchley Wingate. Dad was a good player, although he always used to get caught offside. It took me a long time to understand how that rule worked and I'm not sure Dad ever really got it sorted out. I loved watching him. I loved everything that went with the game, and I could tell how much playing meant to him as well. When he told me he was going to pack in playing regularly himself so he could concentrate on coaching meâI must have been eight or nine at the timeâI knew exactly what that sacrifice meant even though he never talked about it in that way.
From the time I was seven, Dad was taking me to training with
Kingfisher on midweek evenings down at a place called Wadham Lodge, just round the North Circular Road from us. I've got great memories of those nights, not just being with Dad and his mates, but of the ground itself. It was about ten minutes from the house in the car. We'd drive down this long street of terraced houses and pull in through a set of big, blue wooden gates, past the first parking lot and onto the second lot, which was right next to the training ground. The playing surface was orange-colored gravel and cinder, with proper goalposts and nets, and there was a little bar, the social club, that overlooked it. Beyond that field, there were three or four others, including the best one which was reserved for cup games and special occasions. It had a little wall all around it and two dugouts. It seemed like a massive stadium to me at the time. I dreamed about playing on that field one day.
Wadham Lodge wasn't very well looked after back then. Everywhere you turned was a mess, with mud on the floor, really dingy lighting and the water dribbling out of cold showers in the dressing rooms. Then there was the smell of the liniment that players used to rub on their legs. It would hit you as soon as you walked in. There were floodlightsâjust six lamps on top of polesâbut at least once every session they'd go out and somebody would have to run in and put coins in a meter that was in a cupboard just inside the dressing room door.
As well as training with Kingfisher during the soccer season, we'd be back at Wadham Lodge in the summer vacations. Dad used to run, and also play for, a team in the summer league, so I'd come to games with him. We'd practice together before and after and then, while his match was taking place on the big field, I'd find some other boys to play with on the cinder next door. I've had most of my professional career at a club with the best facilities and where everything's taken care of, but I'm glad I had the experience of a place like Wadham Lodge when I was a boy. I mean, if I'd not been there with my dad, I might have grown up never knowing about Soap on a Rope. More to the point, it was where I started taking free-kicks. After everybody else had finished
and was in the social club, I'd stand on the edge of the penalty area and chip a dead ball towards goal. Every time I hit the bar was worth 50 pence extra pocket money from my dad that week. And, just as important, a pat on the back.
The other dads might bring their boys along sometimes but, once I started, I was there week in and week out. I'd sit in the bar and watch the men training and then, towards the end of the session, they'd let me join in with the five-a-sides. I was so excited to be out there playing with the rest of themâthese grown menâthat I took whatever I had coming. I do remember an occasion when one of them came flying into me with a tackle and Dad wasn't happy about it at all but, usually, if I took a knock he'd just tell me to get up and get on with it. He warned me that I had to be prepared to get a bit roughed up now and again. If he'd been running around telling people not to tackle me all evening, it would have been pointless me being there in the first place. The fact that I always seemed to be playing soccer with players who were bigger and stronger than me when I was young, I'm sure, helped me later on in my career.
On the nights when I wasn't at Wadham Lodge, I'd be in Chase Lane Park. We had this secret cut-through to get there: across the road and then four or five houses down from my mum and dad's where there was a private alley. We'd wait around at the top of it until there was nobody about and then sprint fifty yards to the hedge, then through it and the hole in the fence. I still have one or two friends who I first met in Chase Lane. I went on to school with Simon Treglowen and his brother Matt, and I'm still in touch with Simon now. We decided we got on all right after one particular row about whether or not I'd scored past him in goal. That turned into a big fight, even though Simon's four years older than me. Fighting: it's a funny way boys have of making friends. Usually we'd just kick a ball around until it got dark, but there also used to be a youth club, in a little hut, run by a lady called Joan. My mum knew her and would phone up to say we were on our way
over. You could play table tennis or pool and get a fizzy drink or some chocolate. There was an outdoor paddling pool at the back that got filled up in the summer. Some days, Joan would organize a minibus and we'd all head off down to Walthamstow baths. There was also a skate ramp by the side of the hut. I suppose my mum knows now that some of my cuts and bruises were from skateboarding, even though I wasn't allowed on a skateboard back then. The one bad knock I got happened one evening when I fell getting our ball back from the paddling pool after it had been closed up for the night. Joan was still there and she phoned home to tell my parents how I'd got the cut on my head. For about six or seven years, into my early teens, it was a whole world in that park. All those facilities have gone now. It's a shame. Times change and some kids started messing the place up until it had to be closed down.
My very first close friend was a boy called John Brown who lived just up the road. John and I went through both primary and secondary school together. He wasn't really a soccer player so, when I couldn't talk him into a kickabout over at the park, we'd play Lego or, later, Gameboy round at one of our houses, or ride our bikes or rollerskate up and down our road. Later on, when I started playing for Ridgeway Rovers, John used to come along to some of our games even though he didn't play. A few of us, especially me and another Ridgeway boy named Nicky Lockwood, were always up for the movies and John used to come too; I remember Mum would drop us off at the cinema over in Walthamstow. When we were little, John Brown and I were best mates but I suppose my soccer took me in a very different direction. John went off and became a baker after we both left school.
Lucky for me, they loved their soccer at my first school, Chase Lane Primary. I can still remember Mr McGhee, the teacher who used to coach us: a Scotsman and passionate with it, a bit like Alex Ferguson in fact. Kids used to tell tales about Mr McGhee throwing teacups, cricket balls, anything really, at the wall when he was annoyed. I never
witnessed that myself but we were all a bit scared of his reputation, anyway. We had a really good team and used to turn out in this all-green uniform. I was playing soccer with the Cubs as well, which you could only do if you went to church on Sunday. So all the familyâme, Mum and Dad and my sistersâmade sure we were there every time, without fail.
My parents knew how much I loved soccer. If there was a way for me to get a game, they did everything they could to make it happen. Whether it was playing or getting coaching, I'd have my chance. I was at every soccer school going. The first one was the Roger Morgan Soccer School, run by the former Spurs winger. I went there over and over again, doing all the badges until I got the gold. Dad was a lifelong Manchester United supporter and we started going to watch them when they played in London. My mum's dad was diehard Tottenham and he used to take me to White Hart Lane. Every Christmas, I'd end up with a United uniform and a Tottenham uniform, and maybe an England uniform from my mum. If it was soccerâor anything to do with soccerâI was there.
Mum wasn't all that keen on soccer. Her dad was, though, which was one of the reasons I loved being with him as much as I did. Joe was employed in the print trade. For a long time he was over the road from home, at the Stationery Office in Islington. Then he moved down to Fleet Street. He and my grandmother, Peggy, lived on an estate just off City Road, down near Old Street. My dad went out to work early most Saturdays. The rest of us would get on the train at Walthamstow and go down to see my grandparents for the day. We had to get there before noon: Grandad would be off about half past eleven if he was going to watch Spurs. Before leaving, he'd come downstairs and watch me play soccer in the little park on the estate. I'm sure Grandad remembers those times: he definitely remembers me breaking his spectacles. I was only about six but I was already kicking a ball hard enough that his glasses didn't stand a chance the time I accidentally caught him full in the face.
Once Joe went off to White Hart Lane, Peggy would take us off to the shops. Sometimes we'd go to the West End but, more often, we'd get the bus up to the Angel and go to Chapel Market. I didn't mind at all. I had to follow Mum and Nan and my sisters around for a bit, but I always seemed to wangle a toy or something by the end of the afternoon. We sometimes had pie and mash for lunch in Chapel Street as well. Once we got back to the flat, Joe would be getting in from soccer. Then he'd get ready to go out and do the night shift. Dad would pick us up in Wenlock Street after finishing work and we'd all drive home together.