B007Q6XJAO EBOK (43 page)

Gajdusek, Carleton, 34

Ganesha (Hindu god), 75

Garbo, Greta, 47, 111, 211

Gardner, Ava, 23, 112

Gass, William, 150

Gates, Bill, 58

Gaussin, Mademoiselle, 62

Gaylin, Willard, 235

Gellhorn, Martha, 178, 219

Gershwin, George, 35–36

gesture, 165–66

Giddens, Anthony, 238

gifts and wealth, 125–29

Gilgamesh, king of Sumer, 26

Gillette, Douglas, 236

Gladstone, William, 170

Goddard, Paulette, 35

Goethe, Johann Wolfgang von, 152–53

Goleman, Daniel, 78, 79

Gordon, Mary,
Spending
, 84

Gore, Al, 58

Gottman, John, 20

Grahl, Nancy, 10, 11

Grant, Cary, 24, 72

Gray, John,
Mars and Venus in the Bedroom
, 124

Gréco, Juliette, 19

Green, Bryce, 164–65, 234

Green, Jane,
Mr. Maybe
, 153–54

Greene, Gael,
Blue Skies, No Candy
, 147

grooming and fashion, 100–103

Guiccioli, Countess Teresa, 23

Guignot, Elisabeth, 244

Guinevere (myth.), 139

Guinness, Hon. Joan, 19

Gustin (love rocket), 194–95

Gwynne, Nell, 86

gynephilia, 42

Haag, Pamela, 200

Hammer, Michael, 3

Hamsun, Knut,
Mysteries
, 52

Handyman, The
(fict.), 49

Harley, Veronica, 20

Harriman, Pamela, 129

Harris, Jack, 1–3, 113, 201, 239, 241

Haskell, Molly, 244

Hayes, Helen, 47

Hayworth, Rita, 18, 19, 199

heartthrob:

genuine, 21–24

therapy, 20–21

Heaven, Texas
(Phillips), 101, 127

Heisler, Stuart, 47

Helen of Troy, 162

Heloise, 182

Helvétius, Claude Adrien, 61–62, 118

Helvétius, Minette, 233

Hemingway, Ernest, 68

Hendrix, Jimi, 107

Hepburn, Katharine, 207

Hermes (myth.), 52, 63, 75, 78, 162, 167, 169, 176, 214

Hero of Our Time, A
(Lermontov), 116

Heston, Charlton, 72

Hilderbrand, Elin,
Summer Affair
, 162

Hiller, Jane, 181

Hollander, Paul, 230, 231

Holt, Helen Maud, 115

Horgan, Edward, 63

Houdini, 212

Howard, Elizabeth Jane, 200

How Do You Know
(movie), 142

Huffington, Arianna, 78

humor, 174–79

Huston, Anjelica, 56–57

Hutchinson, Mary, 77

Huxley, Aldous, 25, 56, 76–78, 167, 236–37

Ideal Marriage
(van de Velde), 113

identity, 213–20

Igou, Clémentine, 242–43

Iliad, The
, 46

Imer, Teresa, 177

Inanna (myth.), 67, 79, 121–22, 130, 172, 196, 209

infidelity, 227

Inquisition, 10, 68

integrity, 62

intelligence, 230–31

emotional, 79

and knowledge, 74–78

social IQ, 78–82

intensity, 36–39

intimacy, 150–58

irony and sophistication, 26

Isherwood, Christopher, 213

Isis (myth.), 152

“It,” 32

Jackson-Opoku, Sandra, 173

Jacobson, Stuart, 127

Jagger, Mick, 49–50

James, Eloisa,
Pleasure for Pleasure
, 84

Jamison, Key Redfield, 196

Jane Eyre
(Brontë), 56

Jeffrey, Stephen, 238

Johnson, Evangeline, 111

Johnson, Hillary, 54, 55

joie de vivre
, 33–34, 58, 60, 243

Jong, Erica, 55, 195, 214

Jonson, Ben, 4

Joseph II, Emperor, 11

Jung, Carl, 46, 89, 156–57

Kali (myth.), 152

K
ā
ma S
ū
tra
:

on knowledge, 74–75, 181

as love manual, 84, 108, 113, 114, 122, 125, 138, 172, 181, 193, 196

on music, 108

on sex drive, 39

on unity, 154

on use of voice, 166, 172

Kane, Payton, 16

Karen (financier), 221–23, 228, 230–31

Karr, Alphonse, 221

Kate & Leopold
(movie), 238–39

Keillor, Garrison, 235

Kelly, Grace, 47, 199

Kennedy, Jacqueline, 129, 211

Kennedy, John F., 24

Keroualle, Louise de, 86

Key, Ellen, 216

Keyes, Marian,
Last Chance Saloon
, 167

Khan, Prince Aly, 18–19, 114, 123–24, 129

Khonsu (myth.), 87

Kierkegaard, Søren, 39, 202

Kilmarnock, Lord, 200

Kinsale, Laura, 215

Kipnis, Laura, 196

Kirkland, Gelsey, 118

kissing, 123

Kittredge, Charmian, 212

Kjærstad, Jan, 214–15

Kleypas, Lisa, 56, 118, 121, 162, 173, 204

Kligman, Ruth, 141

Klimt, Gustav, 49, 206

knowledge/intelligence, 74–78

Kooning, Willem de, 23

Krishna (myth.), 109

Kristeva, Julia, 127

Krull, Felix (fict.), 172–73

Kundera, Milan, 80, 203

Kurt (photographer), 51, 71, 240–41

Kutcher, Ashton, 42

ladies’ men:

counterfeit, 24–25

genuine, 25–27

making of, 236–37

selling men on, 235–36

La Fayette, Madame de, 88, 139

Lamb, Lady Caroline, 22, 23

Lamott, Anne,
Blue Shoe
, 46

Lancelot (myth.), 139

Lane, Anthony, 225

Lange, Jessica, 118

Langer, Susanne, 176

language, 162–63, 186

Laszlo (Hungarian lover), 74

laughter, 174–79

Law, Jude, 232

Lawrence, D. H., 106, 188

LeDuff, Charlie, 225

Leigh, Vivien, 59, 234

Lessing, Doris,
Love, Again
, 109

Liber (myth.), 200

Liebowitz, Michael, 83, 203

“Lilu” (myth.), 4

listening, 168–70

Liszt, Franz, 210, 216, 233

and age, 25–26

intensity of, 37–38

and Lisztmania, 110

and music, 49, 110

restlessness of, 53

spirituality of, 72

Loki (myth.), 176

Lombard, Carole, 47

London, Jack, 53, 56, 211–12

Loren, Sophia, 112

Lothario (fict.), 5

Louis XIV, king of France, 41

Louis XV, king of France, 41

love:

maintaining, 193

MRI image of, 37

Love, Again
(Lessing), 109

Love & Sex
(movie), 48

Love Machine
(Susann), 5

love of women, 42–44

Luce, Clare Booth, 178

Luke (computer jock), 97–98

lustline, 114

Lyon, Kate, 217

MacCarthy, Desmond, 189

MacDowell, Andie, 243

Madame Bovary
(Flaubert), 34, 101, 105, 197

Madden, Bess, 212

Mad Men
(TV), 5

Mahler, Alma, 206

Mahmud, Sultan, 47

Makarova, Natalya, 118

males:

alpha, 12–16, 212

archetypes, 236

attractiveness of, 13–14, 228–29

chauvinistic, 225

cosmetic surgery for, 228

erotic education of, 236

estranged, 225–26

flawed manhood, 54–57, 91

“healthy” qualities of, 9, 26

initiative by, 136–42, 193, 234

machismo, 225–26, 230

neo–ladies’ men, 227–35

selling men on ladies’ men, 235–36

Malipiero, Alvise Gasparo, 177

Malkovich, John, 4

Mann, Thomas, 172

Manners, Lady Diana, 148–49

Mansfield, Katherine, 116

March, Emily, 197–98

Mark Antony, 198–99

Markham, Beryl, 54

Markham, Howard, 195

Marley, Bill, 114

Martelli, Niccolò, 188

Martin, Shelby, 229

Marvell, Andrew, 185, 188

Maslow, Abraham, 214

Mating Mind, The
(Miller), 61

Matthau, Walter, 210

Maugham, Somerset,
Up at the Villa
, 43, 176

Maupassant, Guy de, 129

Maurois, André, “The Art of Loving,” 36

Max, Tucker, 225, 226

May, Rollo, 126

McConaughey, Matthew, 24

Meana, Marta, 84, 137, 144, 229

Meet Joe Black
(movie), 246

melodrama, 26

Memoirs of Two Brides, The
(Balzac), 37

mental stimulation, 214

Menuhin, Yehudi, 167

Messud, Claire,
Emperor’s Children
, 153

Meston, Cindy, 116, 202, 208, 232

Methley, Herbert (fict.), 173

Metternich, Clemens von, 81–82

Midler, Bette, 246

Miller, Geoffrey:

on apathy, 83

and evolutionary psychology, 48, 63, 75, 79, 87, 104, 186

on the future, 242

“ornamental brain” theory of, 180

on playfulness, 196, 202

The Mating Mind
, 61

on verbal courtship, 162, 186

Miller, Sienna, 232–33

Miller, “Tee,” 211

Millhauser, Steven, “An Adventure of Don Juan,” 86

Millionaire Matchmaker, The
, 33

Milton, John,
Paradise Lost
, 4, 105, 146, 150

mind, 134–58

intimacy, 150–58

praise, 143–50

royal rush (male initiative), 136–42

Minnelli, Liza, 118

Miou-Miou, 243

Mitchell, Joni, 188

Mitchell, Juliet, 4

Mo’ Better Blues
(movie), 49

Modigliani, Amedeo, 25, 74

Mohawk, Delores, 65

Monroe, Marilyn, 188, 199

Montaigne, Michel de, 185

Moore, Demi, 42

Moore, Robert, 236

morality/virtue, 61–66

Moreau, Jeanne, 244

Morrell, Ottoline, 76

Mozart, Wolfgang Amadeus, 10, 11, 34

Munro, Alice, “Passion,” 88

Murphy, Michael, 9

music, 107–12

Musset, Alfred de, 9, 34, 49, 64, 114, 128–29

Napoleon Bonaparte, 81, 170

narcissism, 8

Neal, Patricia, 47, 178–79

Necker, Madame, 184

Neeson, Liam, 143

neocortex, 195

neo–ladies’ men, 227–35

making of, 237–41

the reality, 232–35

Nesbitt, Catherine, 149

Nesle, marquise de, 41

Neumann, Erich, 71

neurochemistry, 144

neurotransmitters, 202

Nicholson, Jack, 19–20, 23–24, 56–57, 124–25

Ninon de Lenclos, 236

Niven, David, 35, 80, 199

Nochimson, Martha, 154

Noel, Miriam, 106–7

nonverbal expression, 164–70

norepinephrine, 37, 202

No Reservations
(movie), 132

novelty, 201–6, 229–30

Noyes, John Humphrey, 72–74

Nye, Maria, 77

Oberon, Merle, 199

O’Brien, Tim,
Tomcat in Love
, 215

Odin (myth.), 203

Odysseus (myth.), 55, 88, 101, 128, 146

Ogas, Ogi, 229

Ogma (myth.), 162

Oneida Community, 73–74

online porn, 224

“ornamental brain” theory of evolution, 180

Orpheus (myth.), 49, 109

Ortega y Gasset, José, 33, 79, 233, 245

Ortigue, Stephanie, 193

Osbourne, Fanny, 69

Osiris (myth.), 52, 55, 145, 152, 196

Other Man, The
(movie), 143

Other One, The
(Colette), 37

Otway, Thomas, 42

Out of Africa
(movie), 53

Ovid:

The Art of Love
, 191

on eloquence, 163, 172, 185

on gift-giving, 127

on kindness, 66

love manual of, 79, 84, 91, 114, 122, 138, 145, 154, 191

on music, 112

oxytocin, 124, 161

Pacana, Gregory, 8

Paglia, Camille, 45, 224

Painter Surprised by a Naked Admirer, The
(L. Freud), 50

Palmerston, Lord “Lord Cupid,” 34–35

Pan (myth.), 169

Paradise Lost
(Milton), 4, 105, 146, 150

Paris (myth.), 46, 162

Parvati (myth.), 209

passion:

and the art of love, 24, 191

baggage accompanying, 67, 212–13

effectiveness of, 36–37, 132–33, 134

and playfulness, 195–96

and poetry, 185

quest for, 137–38, 142, 227, 245–46

retaining, 92–93

and setting, 104

“Passion” (Munro), 88

Patten, Susan Mary, 150

Peacock, Molly, 232

Pease, Barbara and Allan, 165

Pentland, Alex, 43

People
, “Sexiest Man Alive,” 24, 99

Perper, Timothy, 237

Person, Ethel, 87, 197, 208

personal space, 166

Pertschuk, Michael, 228

Pessl, Marisha,
Special Topics in Calamity Physics
, 203

Peter K. (priest), 70

Petronius,
Satyricon
, 171

phallus, etymology of, 39

Phil, Dr., 13, 20, 194

Phillips, Adam, 145, 197, 209

Phillips, Susan Elizabeth, 114, 162, 177

Physiology of Marriage, The
(Balzac), 82, 97, 159

Picasso, Pablo, 107

Piercy, Marge,
Small Changes
, 187

Pinker, Steven, 63

Pisana, Camilla, 88

Pitt, Brad, 72

Plato, 62, 151, 156

Playboy of the Western World
(Synge), 187

player seducer, 16–18

playfulness, 195–97

pleasure, 82–86

pleasure principle, 83, 85, 200–201

Plutarch, 38

poetry, 185–89

Polignac, contesse de, 41

Pollock, Jackson, 141–42

Porter, Cole, 51

Potemkin, Prince Grigory, 12, 43, 56, 99, 131

Powell, Marlene, 239–40

Power, Udana, 124

power plays, 207–13

praise, 143–50

Pride and Prejudice
(Austen), 63

Priestley, J. B., 171