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Defining Morality

Being Good without a Belief in God

Why bother being good at all?

Chucking Stalin and the Inquisition — and getting serious about morality

Being good without God — a quick history

Digging Up the Natural Roots of Morality

Clarifying “survival of the fittest”

Being afraid — and getting over it

Framing the question right — why do people (mostly) behave so well?

Recognizing the changing nature of morality

Exercising the moral muscle

Grasping ethical incentives — carrots and sticks

Recognizing different levels of morality

Keeping two moral ideas in view

Chapter 16 : Seeing the World Naturally

Feeling Freedom and Relief

Accepting Responsibility and Accountability

Setting Aside Bronze-Age Ideas

Thinking about virtues and vices

Embracing doubt

Rethinking sex and sexuality

Thinking about gender

Accepting Mortality

Saying goodbye . . . for real

Embracing life’s limits

Gaping in New Wonder at Reality

Considering whether an atheist can be spiritual

Welcoming natural wonder

Grasping the implications of evolution

Discovering and Defining Life’s Meaning

Raising Children to Think Independently

Chapter 17: Being an Atheist in a Religious World

Living in a Mostly Religious Culture

Choosing battles, knowing rules

Grappling with church-state issues in public school and in the public square

Living in the closet

Coming out of the closet

Deciding how to interact with religion and the religious

Getting Religiously Literate

Understanding why religious literacy matters (for everyone)

Doing religious literacy the wrong way

Doing religious literacy the right way

Living as an Atheist in a Religious Extended Family

Drawing out family religious diversity

Creating a safe space for doubt and difference

Defusing family pressure

Connecting with others

Trying not to disappear

Chapter 18: Getting the Best of Religion . . . and Leaving the Rest

Realizing Why People (Really) Go to Church

Creating Communities without Church (. . . or at Least without God)

Experimenting with humanist community

Finding other tribes

Celebrating Special Days

Enjoying the holidays

Celebrating birth

Coming of age

Getting hitched

Remembering the dead

Counseling and Support without Religion

Kicking bad habits without a “higher power”

Consoling those who grieve

Doing Good Together

Asking Whether Anything is Sacred

Part V: The Part of Tens

Chapter 19: Ten Surprising Things about Atheists and Other Nonbelievers

They’re All Around You

They’re Growing in Number

They Know an Awful Lot about Religion

They Tend to Behave Themselves

They Have a Lot in Common with Everyone Else

They Can Be Nice, Normal, and Funny

They’re in Foxholes, Too

They Don’t Usually Raise Their Kids to Be Atheists

They’re Not More Worried about Death than the Religious

They Often Seek to Coexist and Cooperate with Religious People

Chapter 20: Ten (Plus One) Famous People You May Not Know are Nonbelievers

The Guy Who Wrote Slaughterhouse-Five

The First Female Prime Minister of Australia

The First Atheist Over the Rainbow

The First Woman on US Currency

Ten Points for Gryffindor!

An A-List Actor and Philanthropist

The Founder of Ms. Magazine

An Actual No-Kidding Bishop

The World’s Coolest Astronomer

One of the World’s Richest (and Most Generous) People

An Actress, Activist of the First Rank, and another Harry Potter Alum

Chapter 21: Ten Fun and Easy Ways to Explore Atheism

Read the Books

Follow Blogs, Pods, and Vlogs

Listen to the Music

Think about Thinking

Be Touched by His Noodly Appendage

Read the Bible

Watch Letting Go of God

Watch Other Movies That Challenge Beliefs or Explore a Natural Worldview

Talk to an Atheist

Join the Club

Introduction

A
friend who heard I was writing
Atheism For Dummies
said it would be the skinniest book on the shelf. “Just one sentence long,” he said. “‘Atheists are people who don’t believe in God.’”

I replied by suggesting a book on the Grand Canyon: “The Grand Canyon is a big hole in Arizona.” Of course that sentence would miss most of what’s really worth knowing about the Grand Canyon — its geology and geography, how it came to be, its wildlife and formations, and its significance among other formations on the planet.

Likewise, a book on atheism that stops at the definition of the word would miss what’s really interesting about the startling idea that (despite what your mother and your hunches may tell you) God doesn’t actually exist. It’d be just as incomplete as saying, “Religious people believe in God,” and leaving it at that. There’s a bit more to say.

People who’ve entertained the possibility that God doesn’t exist, and sometimes even said it out loud, make up a seldom-explored thread of human history that intersects with the biggest questions in human life:

How did everything get here?

What is the meaning and purpose of life?

How can you (and more importantly, that guy over there) be a good and moral person?

What happens when you die?

Seriously, is somebody steering this thing?

The idea that an unseen power created and runs the universe is surely as old as the human mind. From the first time one
Homo habilis
saw his neighbor fall down and never get up again, the curious human neo-cortex would have demanded an explanation. Lacking any good way of figuring out what happened, that same neo-cortex would have provided an answer that
seemed
true.

But every guess in human history that “seemed right” has almost certainly been doubted by somebody in the room. When the guess is “God,” and the doubt rises to the level of strong conviction, you have yourself an atheist.

Atheist.
If that word makes you flinch, you’re not alone. People are conditioned to flinch at certain words. When my son came home in seventh grade and said, “You know what? I think I’m a communist,” I nearly flinched down a flight of stairs. He’d learned about systems of government, you see, and the one where everybody shared what they had sounded good to him. But I grew up in the 1970s, and before I could actually
learn
anything about communism, I’d heard it hissed so many times that I couldn’t think about it at all. All I could do was flinch.

The same is true of atheism; however, it’s much less flinch-worthy than you may think. And one purpose of this book is to bring that flinch down to a mild tic.

About This Book

This is a book about atheism written by an atheist. I’m also an agnostic and a humanist, which makes more sense when you finish
Chapter 2
.
If
you finish
Chapter 2
, I should say, because this book is written for dipping and diving. Skip
Chapter 2
completely if you want.

This book isn’t the first one about atheism written by an atheist, but it’s different from most. It’s an overview, an intro for people who are interested in finding out more about the topic. It does include some of the reasons atheists are atheists, but it’s not written to convince you to become one. If that’s what you’re after, other books can serve you better. And though it includes some of the complaints atheists have about religion — because hey, that’s part of the picture — it’s not a broadside against religious belief either. In fact, I spend a good deal of ink talking about the good things religion has to offer and the things believers and nonbelievers have in common. Chapters
17
and
18
are bursting with that sort of thing, which is one of the likely surprises for readers of
Atheism For Dummies.

Although a lot of atheists spend a lot of time (and rightly so) fighting against the bad things religion does, just as many of atheists are interested in co-existing with religion and religious people. And sometimes the same person goes back and forth, depending on the issue. If the idea of atheism freaks you out a bit, my hope is that this book can help you relax. Atheists are mostly perfectly normal folks, and everyone will be better off if they’re less fearful of each other.

On a personal note: You’ll see a lot of personal notes in this book. It’s one of the most striking differences between
Atheism For Dummies
and, say,
Catholicism For Dummies.
There’s no atheist Vatican, no catechism, no scripture, so I can’t point to a central, defining authority to tell you who atheists are or what they believe. I end up relying on surveys, on the reports of organizations, on research, on histories, on anecdotal evidence from the thousands of atheists and humanists I’ve met during my years in the freethought movement, and on my own personal experience as an atheist and humanist. (To keep myself honest, Dr. Ed Buckner, one of the true giants of the American freethought movement, is the book’s technical editor to catch my errors. If any got through, blame Ed.)

The lack of an atheist Vatican is a good thing. Just as not all Catholics believe what the Vatican defines as “Catholic belief,” so any central atheist authority would instantly fail to represent the true diversity of belief among those who claim one of the many labels under that great big umbrella.

So as you flip through this book, instead of a single grand procession through history, you can see religious disbelief as it really is — a collection of millions of individual voices, millions of separate stories, millions of individual human beings asking questions, questioning answers, and finally arriving at the conclusion that God, for better and worse, is all in our heads.

Finally, no one should expect a complete reckoning of the wonderful world of atheism. It’s not possible, it’s not desirable, and it’s not the purpose of this book. Instead, I try to stick to the things that are most interesting and relevant to the past and present of atheism, then give you tips for finding out more if you want to.

Conventions Used in This Book

I use the following conventions throughout the text to make things consistent and easy to understand:

All Web addresses appear in
monofont.
However, I don’t give a lot of URLs. There’s nothing as tedious as copying out a long web address from a book. So I often give an organization name, for example, and let you search for it online.

New terms appear in
italics
and are closely followed by an easy-to-understand definition.

Though a lot of nonbelievers capitalize Atheist and Humanist, many others don’t. For reasons I explain in
Chapter 2
, I’m with the lower-casers. I follow the convention of capitalizing the names of religions, and I capitalize God when used as a proper name (“she believes in God”), just like I capitalize Steve (“she believes in Steve”). But when it’s a generic god or gods (“they worship a big blue god”), no cap. I plan to be pretty inconsistent on this one.

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