The Joy of Hate (5 page)

I could imagine the discussion between the folks who had created the flyer.

“Wow, he has great tits.”

“That’s got to be a 34C.”

Then an administrator probably walked by, fresh from a course in diversity training, thoughtfully stared into the distance for a brief moment, and said, “We can’t have that. That’s offensive.” I’m sure that was met with silence, as everyone in the room thought, “You’ve got to be kidding me.”

Well, whoever was concerned about these tits wasn’t kidding, and his repressive tolerance won, because these beautiful hairy breasts were now obscured. And why? Because they looked like something that normally would have been obscured had they actually been, um, that thing. But they weren’t. They were male breasts, but because they could be construed (in someone’s head) as appearing female, they must be blurred.

And this is the same mentality behind the actions of the modern tolerati. The offense they deem offensive doesn’t have to be offensive as long as someone might construe it as offensive. Or rather, miscontrue.

Misconstrued
should be the word that defines the modern era. So many things these days are misconstrued, only because the tolerati have blanketed our culture with the potential for taking everything the wrong way. Seriously, how weird do you feel now when you use the phrase “black market” in a sentence when there’s a black person nearby? Could it be that a black teen might not have heard that phrase before, and therefore would think you were being racist? Similar stuff has happened.

As reported on the Dallas City Hall blog, back in July 2008, during a meeting concerning how to process Dallas County
traffic ticket payments, Commissioner Kenneth Mayfield made a comment about how so much paperwork had been lost in the office. He said, to the horror of others in the meeting, that Central Collections “had become a black hole.” Mayfield is white, I should point out—only because Commissioner John Wiley Price, who is black, took it the wrong way. Or rather, misconstrued its meaning. He interrupted Mayfield with an “Excuse me!” and then added that the office had actually become a “white hole.” Indicating, more than anything else, that either (a) Price is incredibly thin-skinned and just begging to be outraged, and/or (b) he doesn’t actually know what a black hole is. This is the kind of guy who probably blames astrophysics itself for even having black holes. “Black holes? Proof the entire universe is racist!”

You might think I made this whole thing up in my head as a joke, except you can Google it for yourself. And the incident didn’t end there. Judge Thomas Jones, who is black, also felt that this phrase “black hole” was deeply insensitive, and demanded an apology from Mayfield. Mayfield defended himself, saying the term was a scientific phrase and a figure of speech. Ironically, the judge seemed to be more bigoted than anyone, assuming no black person would have known what a black hole was. Thankfully, TV cameras caught all of this, and it made national news, and fodder for diminutive freaks like me.

Now, one solution to all this is to have someone present at all times called a Misconstrued Umpire, who hits a buzzer whenever someone takes something the wrong way. One other option would be to never use the phrase “black hole,” and instead when you want to use it in a sentence, say something like, “Wow, Tom, your office has turned into the invisible remains of a collapsed star,
with a powerful gravitational field in which nothing can ever escape.” Sort of like Al Gore.

Or you could just lighten up.

Crap, that’s racist—sorry about that.

How about, “You could stop taking this crap so seriously.”

This folly of misconstruance (I hope that’s a real word) reared its absurd head in the 2012 Summer Olympics, when NBC was forced to apologize over a poorly timed advertisement featuring a monkey doing gymnastics (promoting an upcoming new show about animals). The ad aired right after Gabby Douglas’s gold medal win. Douglas is black, so apparently someone believed that NBC had somehow planned all this, thinking, “Hey, let’s run this ad with a primate right after a black gymnast wins.” This is so idiotic, my fingers are actually vomiting as I type this.

But if there’s anyone who is racist, it’s the person who registered the initial outrage. After all, if you made the link between a chimp on the rings and the delightful Gabby, aren’t you the actual racist? Wasn’t that thought in your head and not in NBC’s? NBC had no idea, but
you
did. Because no one in their right mind would go out of their way to do something like this. It was a gymnastics-themed ad that was placed among the gymnastics portion of the Olympics. No one thought it through further. Nor should they have.

Yet it was NBC who had to apologize for the perception of racism, not the reality of it. That’s like me apologizing for being topless at the beach, simply because my ample cleavage makes you think of Jenny McCarthy circa 1998.

Anyway, back to moobs. Because Eduardo’s was a hilarious story, we chose to do it on one of my shows. But as we did more research (i.e., Googling), we found that the guy had a history of
domestic violence. Apparently a decade earlier he had told his wife he was going to kill her. Then he shot her in the head. So we decided to shy away from the story, because it’s hard to be funny about moobs when they’re connected to a monster. Frankly, he’d given moobs a bad name, and moobs had already been through enough. Certainly mine had.

SHE PREFERRED FREE PILLS
over free will. Back in late February 2012 a woman claiming to be a law student, named Sandra Fluke, offered testimony before the House Democratic Steering and Policy Committee. I say she’s “claiming” to be a law student because she’s so much more. In reality, she’s a professional activist, a thirty-year-old woman who has spent her adult life demanding things that the rest of us should pay for. In this case, she was demanding that religious institutions like Georgetown University pay for her (and everyone else’s) birth control pills. This was her crusade, and the Democrats welcomed her with open flabby arms. After all, the testimony was happening just as the Obama administration basically was telling the Catholic Church to screw themselves (without protection) with regard to Obamacare. Yep, O’s mandated health care had something in there saying contraception, sterilization, and the morning-after pill must be offered free of charge by Catholic-affiliated organizations like colleges, universities, and hospitals. It became an ugly brawl—about religious freedom and tolerance. Can the government force a religious institution to act in a way that their very religion finds objectionable? And so the time was right for Fluke to become a star. And in the age of the tolerati and their obsession with entitlement,
she deserved to be. She was the modern mascot of the protracted moan, the Norma Rae of “you will pay.”

Fluke had made the claim that during a three-year stint as a law student, you’d be expected to pay up to 3 grand for your pills—comparing that egregious sum to all the wages you’d make from a summer job (which would lead me to suggest to Sandra: Get a better summer job, or maybe just any job).

Forget her math for a second, because it’s silly. Pills cost dollars a month, and if you can’t afford them, then clearly you are too lazy and stupid to have sex—which is very lazy and stupid indeed. And if you expect us to pay for that, what next? Dinner? The movie? Your eHarmony account? A lot of work goes into having sex, and all of those play an important role in getting it done. I’ve argued before that even gasoline should be free, for without it, how would you get to the pharmacy to pick up your pills? If a feminist does not demand free fill-ups for her Prius, well, she’s just part of the problem.

But look, the real problem was the sense of priority and proportion this issue had assumed. Fluke called having to pay for birth control an “untenable burden.” Apparently, she’d never met a girl trying to go to school in Afghanistan without being doused with acid. That’s a real burden, and even those who suffer from them might not call them untenable. As the son of a father who died of cancer, I can vouch for this: the last two years were untenable. Needing a wheelchair just to get your mail is untenable. Taking a cocktail of drugs to fend off infections? Untenable. But every Jane with an iPhone and an addiction to Starbucks lattes not being able to have her recreational sex life with beta males fresh from Occupy Wall Street subsidized by you and me, that was even more unacceptable. The fact is, in the age of repressive tolerance, we
have to accept everything the left demands, or we will be seen as sexist, bigoted, evil. If you wanted Catholic services to make up their own minds, clearly you were waging “a war against women.”

And that’s how the left bamboozled everyone, with the help of the compliant media, who bought her spiel—hook, line, and stinker. On your dime.

Fluke was savvy enough to make this not about sex (when that’s the only thing it’s about) and turned it into a “women’s health issue.” She put forward one case about a woman (her friend) with an ovarian cyst caused by not being able to get free birth control—yep, one case. And you know if you asked for another, she’d probably have to get back to you. But asking for more examples would only paint you as intolerant, and without a doubt, misogynistic. And pro-cyst.

As a health editor in my younger days, I know you can portray anything as a health issue. Because that’s exactly what I did, to fill up the pages of
Prevention
and
Men’s Health
every month. If birth control pills are a health concern that must be subsidized, then surely condoms are as well. I should never have to pay for another rubber until I die. Although, like most men, I’d probably only buy one, which would slowly disintegrate in my wallet, becoming prophylactic potpourri.

But a bigger concern, if we’re talking about making demands, is sex itself. If we must pay for Fluke’s pills because they are an “untenable burden,” she in turn should pay for my sex life (which is untenable in more ways than I can relate). Research shows that loneliness is a heavy stressor on men. Men who go to bars and come home alone are often depressed and prone to self-destructive behavior. We do know that women live, on average, 10 percent longer than men. And I’ve said before that sexual rejection syndrome
can be at the root of this discrepancy. When men don’t get laid, they find other things to do that aren’t nearly as fun, or as healthy. Drinking, for example, which leads to increased risk of all sorts of ailments (especially if you get too drunk and fall down a flight of stairs). Men also fight when they’re alone, and black eyes and fractured noses are definitely considered a health problem at the emergency room. The doctor will even write “untenable” right across your chart. So by this logic, someone should be buying me hookers to ease my burden, perhaps you (and I prefer brunettes). And what about the consequences of sex with hookers, which is another alternative for a lonely man without a pliant partner? STD treatment can be expensive, too. Do you think that Democratic Steering Committee might hear me out on this?

Forget that health insurance should really only pertain to serious stuff. This sad and stupid debate should be pretty simple: it’s between those who embrace the entitlement culture and those who cherish individual responsibility. In my opinion, Fluke is a moral and intellectual lightweight. For anyone to demand free stuff simply to support a lifestyle, and claim it a health issue, should make every sensible human being sick to their stomach. She is an emblem of a crumbling country, the strident entitlist (another word I coined; every time you use it, I get a royalty) who demands you tolerate her needs—while, of course, she ignores yours. We are now a nation of nags, each one crying out for something they feel is deserved rather than earned.

But the Fluke story took another turn—as it should, because it was starting to get boring—when radio talk show host Rush Limbaugh committed what sportsmen might call an “unforced error,” veering into what the left calls “highly demeaning” territory, referring to Fluke as a “slut” and a “prostitute.” The media and
their lefty activists who supply them with fodder went ape-crazy, demanding apologies and firings and amputations. Sure, what Rush said was unnecessary, but it was only a parodic extension. A woman is demanding you pay for her sexual activities. Every single day must be covered. A left-wing comedian could come up with a half dozen monikers for that, and none of them very pretty. And he or she would get away with it. It’s a joke, an exaggeration—one that didn’t work in this case, though, because Fluke is a heroic character for the left, and the slur came from the mouth of Rush, the font of all things evil. Meanwhile, in various parts of the world, there are “slut” marches, led by feminists who want to proudly wear that moniker to strike a blow against an evil, intolerant patriarchy who would see sexually active women as immoral. For them, it’s “empowering” to get laid a lot with casual aquaintances, which falls perfectly in line with millions of dudes who think it’s pretty cool, too. No protest marches against that, I predict.

And so what could have been a frank discussion about government overreach and entitlement shifted into a “war on women.” If you deny a birth control pill to anyone, period, you are waging war on the fairer sex. Ironically, the “I am woman, hear me roar” crowd became the “I am needy, give me more” bunch—the damsels in distress who, in 2012, cannot find a way to pay for cheap pills. I mean, aren’t women independent enough not to need Daddy to take care of them?

And by Daddy, I mean President Obama, who actually called Fluke to offer his support. Yep, forget those protesters dying in Syria or the explosive number of homicides in Chicago. The person who needed his help most was a thirty-year-old woman whose mission is to get free stuff everyone can afford. The only missing
part of this is that Obama did not personalize it and proudly proclaim, “When my daughters get old enough, I want them to get free contraception.” Of course, he wouldn’t, because he’s a decent dad, and talking about your kids’ future sex life would be legitimately weird. But that’s where his logic leads, right? What’s good for Fluke is good for all women.