Shelter Us: A Novel

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Copyright © 2015 by Laura Nicole Diamond

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Published 2015

Printed in the United States of America

ISBN: 978-1-63152-970-2

e-ISBN: 978-1-63152-971-9

Library of Congress Control Number: 2014922698

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Lyrics of “Shelter Us” written by Larry Jonas.

For Aaron, Emmett, and Christopher

T
his Ferris wheel
revolves faster than I remember. It was Robert’s idea to come tonight. “A great way to say good-bye to the old year—right, kiddos?” Oliver and Izzy jumped up and down, squealing their agreement. There was no saying no. And so we ride.

My stomach drops as the wheel lurches. Izzy is on my lap, and I tighten my grasp around him. It is his first time up here, he is curious by nature, and, at not quite two years old, he hasn’t yet developed a healthy fear of heights.

He is wearing the layers I’ve forced upon him: red race car T-shirt, orange long-sleeved shirt (stained with “washable” finger paint), blue sweatshirt zipped to his neck. Hand-me-downs, all. He had wanted to wear the thin T-shirt alone, wanted the skin on his neck and arms and ears to touch the sunset sky we’re flying toward, without a coat or cover negotiating the distance. He is all California, my little boy. But it is December 31, it is twilight, and I am cold. The chill outmatches my pink cotton sweater. The useless hood keeps falling off my head—form over function. I keep both arms wrapped around my squirmy boy, a hundred feet off the ground.

Across the circular capsule, Robert wraps his arm around the small shoulders of our firstborn, Oliver, who wears his navy blue wind-breaker without complaint. They are facing the ocean, their backs toward us. The swoosh of air from the wheel’s motion lifts Robert’s straight brown hair, and then rests it back in place. They huddle with
their heads side by side, looking for dolphins or whales or sea monsters, as the Pacific slowly erodes the Santa Monica Pier’s wooden pylons beneath us. Screams of laughter roll past, the roller coaster rumbles by. The ocean reaches closer, then farther, then closer, over and over, around and around. I close my eyes.

Since when do Ferris wheels make me nauseous?

I hold tight to Izzy and try to submit to the motion, the swings of discomfort, the unpredictable stopping and starting, the peaking, the resting, the lifting, the dropping. As we round the bottom, I catch a glimpse of how we may appear to the young couple next in line—a joyful family, a dream lived out.

Robert turns around to see how Izzy likes it and sees me: jaw clenched, body locked. “Sarah,” he implores above the squall of gulls and New Year’s Eve revelers, “Honey, try to have fun.”

Smile
, I tell myself. I stretch my lips toward their corners. The brisk air whips a tear from my eye. I can tell by Robert’s sigh I’m unconvincing. Ah, but it’s what I’ve got.

I was taught to say, “I have two children. My daughter died.”

Oliver was two. Izzy had not yet come to save us. I was told that I needed to say this to honor my daughter’s six weeks on Earth. To acknowledge her life, our loss. Our Ella.

I tried it twice.

The first time was at the weekly grief group at the hospital where all three of my children were born. Robert had already stopped coming. He said it didn’t help. I didn’t argue, but I continued—my penance.

The sign on the door said E
DUCATION
R
OOM
. The room was the same dimensions as the one where we took Lamaze when I was pregnant with Oliver, one floor up. We hadn’t gotten around to “refresher” Lamaze for the second baby. Could that have been the difference? If we’d been more prepared, would that have saved her? When the accident happened, everyone said, “It was a fluke. You couldn’t have prevented it.” But that can’t be true. We can’t have so little control.

For six weeks we had been home, our new family of four. I was stretched to my limits, trying to balance Ella’s physical needs (feed, burp, clean, let sleep) with Oliver’s emotional needs (play with, cajole, reassure). I was surprised that Oliver was still the most demanding member of our family. I was sure it would be the baby. But Ella’s basic requirements were simple compared with those of a toddler who had just become an older brother. How to deal with his tantrum because everyone kept saying how beautiful the baby was? How to help him love this interloper? How to let him assert his prominence without hating her or even hurting her?

The first night we were home from the hospital, a freshly bathed Oliver ran to our bedroom and flew to the center of the king bed, making sure that the new baby would not claim the prized position between
his
parents. For her safety, we kept her in a bassinet next to me, close enough for her to nurse in our bed but be placed back in her own space to sleep. It worked at first. But after more than a month of the four of us sleeping in one room, I couldn’t take it anymore. With every twist and kick, Oliver woke me from my precious rest. With every small intake of breath, Ella startled me to check on her. Robert was getting up in the middle of the night and moving to Oliver’s bed so he could get some sleep. Everyone was too close. Everything was upside down.

I told Oliver he was ready to be back in his own bed. To make it “fair,” I told him I would put Ella to sleep in her crib in their shared room. That night, I luxuriated in being able to curl toward the center of my bed and find Robert and not Oliver, to receive Robert’s arms with no one between us. “Hi,” we said. “Long time no see.” This was the way it should be, would be from then on. We fell asleep facing each other, comforted that our children also had each other in their room down the hall. No one would be lonely.

I woke up confused the next morning, my breasts hard with milk, my pajama shirt soaked.
She slept all night? I have a champion sleeper? I earned this
, I thought, after all those nights up with Oliver, who was a year old before he achieved that milestone. I would let slip to my
yet-to-exist baby group:
Ella has slept all night since she was six weeks old
. It confirmed the wisdom of my decision to put everyone to bed in his or her rightful place.

I had to go wake her to relieve my heavy breasts. It was just before dawn, and the sky was cardboard gray, a uniform cloud waiting to be cracked open by light and heat. I opened their bedroom door to a deafening quiet. Oliver was sound asleep, his blankets kicked to the floor. I turned to my right, to the crib, and my ears filled with a screaming sound, like jets taking off: Where was she? The bottom fitted sheet. Off the mattress. On her. Over her. I threw it off. I picked her up. She was too cold.

I thought,
She should be warm
and,
This is not my story
. I ran back down the hall, clutching her to my aching chest, milk dripping on the floor. “Robert! She’s not breathing! She’s not breathing!” He jumped out of bed, and before he was fully awake he had taken her from my arms, placed her on her back on our bed, tilted her head up, and covered her face with his mouth, breathing, breathing.

“The sheet was on her!” I cried as I ran to the phone on my bedside table, next to the fire extinguisher that would not help us.

“Nine one one. What is your emergency?”

“My baby isn’t breathing. She’s not breathing.” I didn’t scream. Why didn’t I scream? Maybe if I kept myself calm, it wasn’t really an emergency. If I’d screamed, would it have saved her?

“What is your address?” the operator asked.

I answered all of her questions, and Robert kept breathing on top of Ella’s motionless figure until the paramedics came in and pulled him away.

One more inch of cotton sheet. One more night in our room. One more chance to do anything different.

That morning ripped a hole in the atmosphere. It opened a portal that led me to sit in a circle with the other stone bodies of broken parents, in khaki metal folding chairs set up for us each week by some never-seen orderly. Those chairs defied the laws of physics; they were
immune to the transfer of body heat. Their cold burned through my clothes the full hour each week.

The grief group counselor gesticulated with orange fingernails and squawked in a New York accent that she clung to even after twenty years here. She concocted phrases she wanted us to practice and told us it was good for us. When she announced that evening’s assignment, no one moved. I remember a collective intake of breath.

“Practice with the person next to you, but not your spouse or pahtnah.” Spouses, we were told, shouldn’t expect the other to put their pieces back together. They were broken, too. “I know it’s hahd, folks, but this is a safe place,” she urged. It was obvious she wasn’t one of us.

I looked to my left at a woman in her fifties. Each week, her gray roots grew longer, the effort to cover them with hair dye abandoned in the face of tragedy. Who cared anymore? The square white buttons on her blue cardigan were fastened up to her neck. All I knew about this cardigan woman was that she had lost her only child, a teenage son, to a car accident. Her husband looked at her as if to ask,
Are you okay?
and then turned to practice with the woman next to him.

I told her, “You can ask me first.” She nodded, and then asked me the assigned question: “Do you have any children?”

I recited my answer like a robot—“I have two children, my daughter died”—and pretended it wasn’t me I was talking about. When I finished, I rubbed my face until it stung. She looked at the pads of her fingertips.

Then it was my turn to ask her. I wanted to run out of there, tell Robert he’d been right, this didn’t help, that I was never coming back either. But, ever the A-student, I dutifully completed the assignment.

“Do you have any children?” I managed to whisper. It must have sounded like a shrieking train to her. I remember every flicker of her face. She winced, the pain as fresh and immediate as if she’d just slammed her fingers in a door. She spoke softly, as though by doing so she could prevent it from being true. “I have one son, Samuel. He died.” Then she collapsed into her lap. Her husband turned around, put a hand on her back.

I closed my eyes and thought of Oliver, safe at home with Robert, and I thanked God for sparing him, for allowing me still to be graced by the sound “Mama.” I felt the twisted relief that this other mother’s loss was more absolute than mine. And with that shameful thought, I knew for certain I was done with this grief group.

The second and last time I spoke those words was a few weeks later, at a two-year-old’s birthday party. I was sitting on the grass at Rancho Park next to a woman I didn’t know, another mother of a toddler party guest. We watched as Oliver and her son rolled down a hill together. It was a spectacular summer day after a string of gloomy ones, and the festive mood matched the sunshine. Green grass and blue sky filled my eyes, and I felt a small measure of contentment watching Oliver discover hill rolling and a new friend.

Then it came, no reason but to fill a lull in our chatter. “Do you have other kids?” she asked. That poor woman had no idea what she was setting in motion with her innocent question.

I tasted vomit working its way up. Everything went white. I thought I might pass out. Then I recovered, remembered my lines, and recited them. “I have two children. My daughter died.” Her face blanched; she stammered something about being sorry. We sat in silence, looked back at our whirling sons. I did not feel empowered. I felt hollow. Scalped. I hated the grassy hill, the wide sky, myself. I excused myself and ran to the park restroom, pulled my hair, made the hurt physical so I could bear it. I beat it back, returned to the party, smiled for Oliver.